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<blockquote data-quote="LostSoul1" data-source="post: 681177" data-attributes="member: 19755"><p>Hello Everyone....i know it's been a few weeks (yikes almost a month)...time sure flies when you're having fun! (NOT!).</p><p></p><p>Wanted to provide a bit of an update. My son did end up moving into a room that he is renting. Things seemed to be going well ie. went grocery shopping (albeit with money i loaned him and agreed to pay me back). You're probably wondering why i did that, well, apparently he claims he didn't realize he was going to be moving in a place in February, so ended up spending all his money. So i reluctantly agreed to loan him $50 for groceries. HOWEVER, i gave him a stark warning that next month (being March), if he ends up spending all his money again, i won't give him ONE CENT! Mind you last week he was complaining how he didn't have enough money so i suggested how about contacting the caseworker from Social Services as she can help you with job training, placement etc. I explained to him, even getting a minimum wage paying job would give him far more money than what he is earning now. So things seemed ok for a while....until....</p><p></p><p>I met up with him last nite....he told me he met with the caseworker regarding job search etc. I wasVERY happy to hear this. </p><p></p><p>However, as i suspected and based on his moods, he told me he has run out of his medications and has not taken them for 7 days now!! This concerns me, as i see his mood going from calm one minute...to swearing and yelling at me the next. He called me as i was driving home from work to say he has no food or money to buy groceries! I asked him what happened to the disability money he was paid on Monday (i'm talking a mere 3 days ago!!!??) He said he paid the rent and the rest of the money he doesn't know, he can't recall. Then he said he has no clean clothes or money to go to the laundry mat....and he needed changed. I said no way...if i gave him money, he would surely spend it!! Well, i guess i never learn, as I agreed to meet him later but only if to make sure he spends the money on laundry. Mind you a load of laundry only costs $3.75. He said he needs help with folding and he had not used the laundrymat yet. K...so i agreed to show him this one time. However, for food, i said he will have to go to a food bank......as i said last month i told him i would not give him any money (but that said i know i know, i was offering to pay for his laundry)...k i get it!</p><p></p><p>So when i picked him up, i asked him how he felt things were going and why is he spending money so much....he said he didn't know why. I said it could have to do with him not taking his medications? Mind you i had offered last week to take him to my family doctor to refill his medications - which he declined as he said he had 'things to do'. Then he tells me he hasn't eaten in 2 days!!!?? Again i said, where is your money going to and why don't you buy groceries?? .....again, he looked puzzled, tired, and not in the best state of mind. I mentioned to him about the group home and perhaps living alone was not the best thing for now until he gets stable...ie. mentally,finds a job etc....as i didn't think he looked very well. Also it was freezing outside and he wasn't wearing any jacket just a sweater and track pants!! I could see people in the parking lot looking at him. Honestly, my heart was breaking seeing him like this and so wanting to help him...but i knew i had to maintain my position. He then got really upset and started yelling at me saying i always criticize him...i wasn't i was just trying to make him realize the situation.</p><p></p><p>So he runs off in the middle of the Walmart Parking lot of all places! ....so got back in my car and started driving not exactly sure what he was thinking as i still had his dirty laundry in my car!! Then he just sort came out in front of my car, looked like he didn't even notice me. He was wearing earphones and playing music which i notice he does when he is not on medications! ....Honestly, he is not doing well.</p><p></p><p>I told him i could take him to emerg to get a script if he wasn't feeling well or i could take him to my family doctor on Friday. Also suggested he talk to his caseworker about an appointment with his psychiatrist.....but at that point he just told me to take him home...so took him home... he slammed my car door and he went inside. He said he would go to a to a food bank but didn't have his odsp card so couldn't go... then he starts cursing at me accusing me of having his card and not giving it to him....'you fat cow...give me my card! I hope you have a heart attack"!! Off he went inside his place storming off.</p><p></p><p>I contacted his caseworker to tell her what happened in an email and also copied in his psychiatric......i am really concerned for him, especially the fact he is not taking his medications for over 7 days now....he seems to go thru hundreds of dollars in a matter of days...very careless and impulsive with money. Spends and then thinks ohhhh i need to buy groceries. I know this is part of the bipolar, but i wish he would get help...</p><p></p><p>I just feel so helpless, i want to FIX the situation, i can't. I feel POWERLESS. I know, logically it is up to him, but to do nothing is soooooo hard. I know he is going to call me again tonite as i go home....i am afraid to answer the phone. I have told myself, i won't answer his calls.....this is so HARD!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LostSoul1, post: 681177, member: 19755"] Hello Everyone....i know it's been a few weeks (yikes almost a month)...time sure flies when you're having fun! (NOT!). Wanted to provide a bit of an update. My son did end up moving into a room that he is renting. Things seemed to be going well ie. went grocery shopping (albeit with money i loaned him and agreed to pay me back). You're probably wondering why i did that, well, apparently he claims he didn't realize he was going to be moving in a place in February, so ended up spending all his money. So i reluctantly agreed to loan him $50 for groceries. HOWEVER, i gave him a stark warning that next month (being March), if he ends up spending all his money again, i won't give him ONE CENT! Mind you last week he was complaining how he didn't have enough money so i suggested how about contacting the caseworker from Social Services as she can help you with job training, placement etc. I explained to him, even getting a minimum wage paying job would give him far more money than what he is earning now. So things seemed ok for a while....until.... I met up with him last nite....he told me he met with the caseworker regarding job search etc. I wasVERY happy to hear this. However, as i suspected and based on his moods, he told me he has run out of his medications and has not taken them for 7 days now!! This concerns me, as i see his mood going from calm one minute...to swearing and yelling at me the next. He called me as i was driving home from work to say he has no food or money to buy groceries! I asked him what happened to the disability money he was paid on Monday (i'm talking a mere 3 days ago!!!??) He said he paid the rent and the rest of the money he doesn't know, he can't recall. Then he said he has no clean clothes or money to go to the laundry mat....and he needed changed. I said no way...if i gave him money, he would surely spend it!! Well, i guess i never learn, as I agreed to meet him later but only if to make sure he spends the money on laundry. Mind you a load of laundry only costs $3.75. He said he needs help with folding and he had not used the laundrymat yet. K...so i agreed to show him this one time. However, for food, i said he will have to go to a food bank......as i said last month i told him i would not give him any money (but that said i know i know, i was offering to pay for his laundry)...k i get it! So when i picked him up, i asked him how he felt things were going and why is he spending money so much....he said he didn't know why. I said it could have to do with him not taking his medications? Mind you i had offered last week to take him to my family doctor to refill his medications - which he declined as he said he had 'things to do'. Then he tells me he hasn't eaten in 2 days!!!?? Again i said, where is your money going to and why don't you buy groceries?? .....again, he looked puzzled, tired, and not in the best state of mind. I mentioned to him about the group home and perhaps living alone was not the best thing for now until he gets stable...ie. mentally,finds a job etc....as i didn't think he looked very well. Also it was freezing outside and he wasn't wearing any jacket just a sweater and track pants!! I could see people in the parking lot looking at him. Honestly, my heart was breaking seeing him like this and so wanting to help him...but i knew i had to maintain my position. He then got really upset and started yelling at me saying i always criticize him...i wasn't i was just trying to make him realize the situation. So he runs off in the middle of the Walmart Parking lot of all places! ....so got back in my car and started driving not exactly sure what he was thinking as i still had his dirty laundry in my car!! Then he just sort came out in front of my car, looked like he didn't even notice me. He was wearing earphones and playing music which i notice he does when he is not on medications! ....Honestly, he is not doing well. I told him i could take him to emerg to get a script if he wasn't feeling well or i could take him to my family doctor on Friday. Also suggested he talk to his caseworker about an appointment with his psychiatrist.....but at that point he just told me to take him home...so took him home... he slammed my car door and he went inside. He said he would go to a to a food bank but didn't have his odsp card so couldn't go... then he starts cursing at me accusing me of having his card and not giving it to him....'you fat cow...give me my card! I hope you have a heart attack"!! Off he went inside his place storming off. I contacted his caseworker to tell her what happened in an email and also copied in his psychiatric......i am really concerned for him, especially the fact he is not taking his medications for over 7 days now....he seems to go thru hundreds of dollars in a matter of days...very careless and impulsive with money. Spends and then thinks ohhhh i need to buy groceries. I know this is part of the bipolar, but i wish he would get help... I just feel so helpless, i want to FIX the situation, i can't. I feel POWERLESS. I know, logically it is up to him, but to do nothing is soooooo hard. I know he is going to call me again tonite as i go home....i am afraid to answer the phone. I have told myself, i won't answer his calls.....this is so HARD! [/QUOTE]
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