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<blockquote data-quote="LostSoul1" data-source="post: 713183" data-attributes="member: 19755"><p>Hi Everyone...it has been over a year since i last posted which was in Mar, 2016. I wish i could come back and say everything is wonderful. My son since my last post was kicked out of the place he was living in because the room he rented was kept in such disarray. So i come along and help him find another room to rent...only again to be kicked out after 1 month. So in June, 2016 i allowed my son to move back in with me....I KNOW, BIG MISTAKE.</p><p></p><p>The empty promises of 'yes i will go to my work program'....yes i will go to my mental health program.....for 2 weeks and then sit at home all day long sleeping til 1 pm and playing online video games. Not helping with chores, eating all day long, gaining weight...driving me crazy to the point my health is suffering, insomnia, high blood pressure, anxiety and a stressful job to deal with on top of it all.</p><p></p><p>Well after giving my son sooo many chances i have lost count., i finally had it and told him to not return home as i found out he took my atm card and withdrew $350 from my bank acct! He is on disability for his deprssion, anxiety. He would spend all his money on food and crap, even though i have a fully stocked fridge with all kinds of food....he binges on junk food, fast food. He is addicted to food, and an emotional eater. His dad died of a heart attack and was morbidly obese in May, 2015. I have tried to support my son, encourage him, go to medical appts,...in essence i am his social worker! Only to lied to and manipulated by him. I am so hurt by his lies and his lack of caring for me. Telling me i am a drama queen because i am complaining of not sleeping, feeling anxious and concerned about my blood pressure.</p><p></p><p>I saw him yesterday to bring him a change of clothes and medications. I asked him to give me back the money he stole...on ly to be told no, since he was kicked out, this was his rent money and is taking it back! Mind you this is before i kicked him out, he had taken the money as he said he needed it! Yeah..to buy video game points, and all the other crap he spends on.</p><p></p><p>I urged him to go to a shelter, he said no he will figure it out. I feel so hurt because my efforts to help him have not helped...he is worse. He missed his psychiatric appointment because he said he hates how he talks about his weight issue. I hope he is ok. He called me late last night and he asked if i was ok...weird i said i was fine and asked him if he was inside or out...he said never mind, he is ok. I said i hope he calls mental health services for a place to stay for a bit. He was on a wait list for supportive housing which is like a year long....although he thinks he can live alone even though he gets kicked out constantly.</p><p></p><p>I feel bad but at the same time, i slept better last night without having to be awaken by lights going on at 3 am while he goes down to eat or play video games. I can't take it anymore and told him he can't return until he gets help for himself, a job, and stability and he needs to figure it out and find a place to live. I haven't felt the quietness of my home in so long. I am in the middle of doing some minor renos, and painting. I got a new couch...still not delivered but the thought of him slobbering with his messes just infuriates me and i go to so much effort to make my place a home and he just continues to be a slob and have no regard that i work hard to provide a home and he has no respect for my property. Endless yelling, telling him to clean up after himself, brush his teeth! omg, it is insane what i put up with. Coming home not knowing what i am going to find. I need to enjoy the tranquility of my space and home and focus on me. I have done all i can for him. Up to him now.</p><p></p><p>I pray he finds the will to help himself. I am so afraid he will take his life as he attempted suicide in 2015.....i feel so powerless to help him but i know inside only he can get the help he needs. His grandmother i know will be upset knowing about this. I had told her before if she is so concerned, then step in to help and take him in as she had her enabled son. Of course =she says, she is too old.....well i have done my part and it is up to my son to figure it out. As hard as it is i am stepping back and he needs to take control. Of course the voices in my head...his medications are low, he needs to refill them, etc etc...voices don't stop but he is able bodied with 2 feet and resourceful when necessary. I told him he has the ability to steal and lie to me...he is able to figure it out. I hope i can stay strong and not give in to his pleads for help. I feel he is drowning and trying to take me down with him.</p><p></p><p>Thoughts and advice to help me through this is most welcome. These days are going to be hard. Thanks for listening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LostSoul1, post: 713183, member: 19755"] Hi Everyone...it has been over a year since i last posted which was in Mar, 2016. I wish i could come back and say everything is wonderful. My son since my last post was kicked out of the place he was living in because the room he rented was kept in such disarray. So i come along and help him find another room to rent...only again to be kicked out after 1 month. So in June, 2016 i allowed my son to move back in with me....I KNOW, BIG MISTAKE. The empty promises of 'yes i will go to my work program'....yes i will go to my mental health program.....for 2 weeks and then sit at home all day long sleeping til 1 pm and playing online video games. Not helping with chores, eating all day long, gaining weight...driving me crazy to the point my health is suffering, insomnia, high blood pressure, anxiety and a stressful job to deal with on top of it all. Well after giving my son sooo many chances i have lost count., i finally had it and told him to not return home as i found out he took my atm card and withdrew $350 from my bank acct! He is on disability for his deprssion, anxiety. He would spend all his money on food and crap, even though i have a fully stocked fridge with all kinds of food....he binges on junk food, fast food. He is addicted to food, and an emotional eater. His dad died of a heart attack and was morbidly obese in May, 2015. I have tried to support my son, encourage him, go to medical appts,...in essence i am his social worker! Only to lied to and manipulated by him. I am so hurt by his lies and his lack of caring for me. Telling me i am a drama queen because i am complaining of not sleeping, feeling anxious and concerned about my blood pressure. I saw him yesterday to bring him a change of clothes and medications. I asked him to give me back the money he stole...on ly to be told no, since he was kicked out, this was his rent money and is taking it back! Mind you this is before i kicked him out, he had taken the money as he said he needed it! Yeah..to buy video game points, and all the other crap he spends on. I urged him to go to a shelter, he said no he will figure it out. I feel so hurt because my efforts to help him have not helped...he is worse. He missed his psychiatric appointment because he said he hates how he talks about his weight issue. I hope he is ok. He called me late last night and he asked if i was ok...weird i said i was fine and asked him if he was inside or out...he said never mind, he is ok. I said i hope he calls mental health services for a place to stay for a bit. He was on a wait list for supportive housing which is like a year long....although he thinks he can live alone even though he gets kicked out constantly. I feel bad but at the same time, i slept better last night without having to be awaken by lights going on at 3 am while he goes down to eat or play video games. I can't take it anymore and told him he can't return until he gets help for himself, a job, and stability and he needs to figure it out and find a place to live. I haven't felt the quietness of my home in so long. I am in the middle of doing some minor renos, and painting. I got a new couch...still not delivered but the thought of him slobbering with his messes just infuriates me and i go to so much effort to make my place a home and he just continues to be a slob and have no regard that i work hard to provide a home and he has no respect for my property. Endless yelling, telling him to clean up after himself, brush his teeth! omg, it is insane what i put up with. Coming home not knowing what i am going to find. I need to enjoy the tranquility of my space and home and focus on me. I have done all i can for him. Up to him now. I pray he finds the will to help himself. I am so afraid he will take his life as he attempted suicide in 2015.....i feel so powerless to help him but i know inside only he can get the help he needs. His grandmother i know will be upset knowing about this. I had told her before if she is so concerned, then step in to help and take him in as she had her enabled son. Of course =she says, she is too old.....well i have done my part and it is up to my son to figure it out. As hard as it is i am stepping back and he needs to take control. Of course the voices in my head...his medications are low, he needs to refill them, etc etc...voices don't stop but he is able bodied with 2 feet and resourceful when necessary. I told him he has the ability to steal and lie to me...he is able to figure it out. I hope i can stay strong and not give in to his pleads for help. I feel he is drowning and trying to take me down with him. Thoughts and advice to help me through this is most welcome. These days are going to be hard. Thanks for listening. [/QUOTE]
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