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My 20 year old son won't move out. HELP!
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<blockquote data-quote="WaveringFaith" data-source="post: 619230" data-attributes="member: 17636"><p>Thank you Recovering & MWM for chiming in so quickly. As devastated that I am, and heartbroken that my child would want to hurt me so, I'm glad this happened. It took this to get me to clear the cobwebs from my eyes. I will need to begin looking very seriously at options for removing him from my home. In my mind, I still am making unconscious excuses, like the recent freezing temps, etc.. But he brought this on himself. I will not have someone so destructive in my home. I am starting to believe that perhaps there has been drugs involved all along, I was just so blind to it, not wanting to believe.</p><p> </p><p>My mom seems to think that he has his own psychological war going on in his mind and in his efforts to detach himself from me, he is wanting to do everything he can for me to throw him out. I wouldn't doubt there's a little bit of that in there too. I still believe he has a major mental problem, not able to be around other people, extreme social phobia, and perhaps that is why I always felt so terrible for him. How would he ever be able to find/hold down a job, if he can't even stand being around other human beings? How would he have money to eat, find a warm home? But these are the thoughts that would replay in my mind over and over again, and that is why this has lasted this long.</p><p> </p><p>I agree that he shouldn't be allowed in my home when i'm at work all day. I might need to make him go with me, so I can drop him off somewhere during the day. He has brought this on himself. It would at least give me peace of mind that I wouldn't have to worry each afternoon what I would find at home when I open the door.</p><p> </p><p>Thank you so much. I know you've been there and have the experience to support your advice, which is why I value it so much. It just hurts so very much to come to this realization. But better sooner rather than later.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs to you!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WaveringFaith, post: 619230, member: 17636"] Thank you Recovering & MWM for chiming in so quickly. As devastated that I am, and heartbroken that my child would want to hurt me so, I'm glad this happened. It took this to get me to clear the cobwebs from my eyes. I will need to begin looking very seriously at options for removing him from my home. In my mind, I still am making unconscious excuses, like the recent freezing temps, etc.. But he brought this on himself. I will not have someone so destructive in my home. I am starting to believe that perhaps there has been drugs involved all along, I was just so blind to it, not wanting to believe. My mom seems to think that he has his own psychological war going on in his mind and in his efforts to detach himself from me, he is wanting to do everything he can for me to throw him out. I wouldn't doubt there's a little bit of that in there too. I still believe he has a major mental problem, not able to be around other people, extreme social phobia, and perhaps that is why I always felt so terrible for him. How would he ever be able to find/hold down a job, if he can't even stand being around other human beings? How would he have money to eat, find a warm home? But these are the thoughts that would replay in my mind over and over again, and that is why this has lasted this long. I agree that he shouldn't be allowed in my home when i'm at work all day. I might need to make him go with me, so I can drop him off somewhere during the day. He has brought this on himself. It would at least give me peace of mind that I wouldn't have to worry each afternoon what I would find at home when I open the door. Thank you so much. I know you've been there and have the experience to support your advice, which is why I value it so much. It just hurts so very much to come to this realization. But better sooner rather than later. Hugs to you!! [/QUOTE]
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