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My 20 yr old clinically depressed son refuses help
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 618836" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Oh I am so sorry. I can hear and feel your pain and fear about your precious son. </p><p></p><p>My son has threatened suicide multiple times. One time he locked himself in his dad's garage, cut his wrists and texted a picture of them to his girlfriend. She called me, I called the police, and met them at the garage. They transported him to the ER, and from there he went to his second rehab. </p><p></p><p>In our state, threatening suicide is against the law. After my son had done it multiple times, I got in his face and I said this to him, very directly, firmly and clearly: Every single time you threaten suicide, I will call 911. </p><p></p><p>He never has again, even though he has been homeless, in jail x times, etc., since then.</p><p></p><p>I am not saying your son is the same, please hear that. But I do know the fear that comes with that threat and that action. It is awful as a parent to bear witness to.</p><p></p><p>Does he take drugs? You didn't say anything about that. If not, it sounds like you are dealing with serious clinical depression at the very least. </p><p></p><p>If he won't get help himself, what can you do? Can he be hospitalized? Psychiatrist evaluation or complete workup? How much manipulation of you is part of this? </p><p></p><p>I keep going back and rereading your post, trying to be careful about what I write here as I know you are in deep pain and fear right now. </p><p></p><p>Ultimately, if he won't get any kind of help or he won't sustain any kind of treatment that the experts do provide and recommend, there is nothing you can do. </p><p></p><p>You said you were at your "wit's end" and that is when you tried something different. When our difficult children are at THEIR wit's end, they will try something different. We hope it will not be a final, fateful decision, like you said he has done before. I do know and believe that for any of us to really, really change, we have to be sick and tired of our lives today, so very sick and tired that we will try something new. </p><p></p><p>That is when I started to change. My son, even though I continue to work hard at detachment (tough love, etc.), continues to spiral down. But I believe this is the right path for me. </p><p></p><p>Welcome here. We have lots of care, warmth and support for you. You can take what you like and what fits and leave the rest. We are respectful of each other and recognize while so much of our stories are the same, we are the only ones who can decide what we will do.</p><p></p><p>Blessings and prayers for you and for your precious son today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 618836, member: 17542"] Oh I am so sorry. I can hear and feel your pain and fear about your precious son. My son has threatened suicide multiple times. One time he locked himself in his dad's garage, cut his wrists and texted a picture of them to his girlfriend. She called me, I called the police, and met them at the garage. They transported him to the ER, and from there he went to his second rehab. In our state, threatening suicide is against the law. After my son had done it multiple times, I got in his face and I said this to him, very directly, firmly and clearly: Every single time you threaten suicide, I will call 911. He never has again, even though he has been homeless, in jail x times, etc., since then. I am not saying your son is the same, please hear that. But I do know the fear that comes with that threat and that action. It is awful as a parent to bear witness to. Does he take drugs? You didn't say anything about that. If not, it sounds like you are dealing with serious clinical depression at the very least. If he won't get help himself, what can you do? Can he be hospitalized? Psychiatrist evaluation or complete workup? How much manipulation of you is part of this? I keep going back and rereading your post, trying to be careful about what I write here as I know you are in deep pain and fear right now. Ultimately, if he won't get any kind of help or he won't sustain any kind of treatment that the experts do provide and recommend, there is nothing you can do. You said you were at your "wit's end" and that is when you tried something different. When our difficult children are at THEIR wit's end, they will try something different. We hope it will not be a final, fateful decision, like you said he has done before. I do know and believe that for any of us to really, really change, we have to be sick and tired of our lives today, so very sick and tired that we will try something new. That is when I started to change. My son, even though I continue to work hard at detachment (tough love, etc.), continues to spiral down. But I believe this is the right path for me. Welcome here. We have lots of care, warmth and support for you. You can take what you like and what fits and leave the rest. We are respectful of each other and recognize while so much of our stories are the same, we are the only ones who can decide what we will do. Blessings and prayers for you and for your precious son today. [/QUOTE]
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