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My 20 yr old clinically depressed son refuses help
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 618852" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>At one point I was crazed and desperate to do something, anything and I looked into guardianship. It is nearly impossible.</p><p></p><p>You are going to have to let him go. Let him leave. Stop trying to be one step ahead of him and "manage" him. Believe me, believe all of us, it does not work. We have all been there and tried it all, just like you have. </p><p></p><p>Once we finally stopped, sat down, and looked back at all we had tried...and realized NONE of it worked, in fact, things were worse, we started the long, long journey to stopping. </p><p></p><p>I still make mistakes. I still get confused and try to interfere with my son. I still get scared and react. I am so much healthier than I used to be, but it is super hard.</p><p></p><p>So be gentle with yourself. Take the first few steps in the opposite direction (metaphorically) of your son. Let him do what he wants to do. Quit talking to him and everybody else about this. Be silent for a while. Quit taking action. Quit staying up all night. Quit fixing his food.</p><p></p><p>Just stop. Breathe. Begin the process of reclaiming your own life. We are here for you as you navigate the days and weeks ahead.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 618852, member: 17542"] At one point I was crazed and desperate to do something, anything and I looked into guardianship. It is nearly impossible. You are going to have to let him go. Let him leave. Stop trying to be one step ahead of him and "manage" him. Believe me, believe all of us, it does not work. We have all been there and tried it all, just like you have. Once we finally stopped, sat down, and looked back at all we had tried...and realized NONE of it worked, in fact, things were worse, we started the long, long journey to stopping. I still make mistakes. I still get confused and try to interfere with my son. I still get scared and react. I am so much healthier than I used to be, but it is super hard. So be gentle with yourself. Take the first few steps in the opposite direction (metaphorically) of your son. Let him do what he wants to do. Quit talking to him and everybody else about this. Be silent for a while. Quit taking action. Quit staying up all night. Quit fixing his food. Just stop. Breathe. Begin the process of reclaiming your own life. We are here for you as you navigate the days and weeks ahead. [/QUOTE]
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