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My 40 year Old Daughter stole 10's of Thousands from me - what I did and where I am now
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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 635225" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Yes it is my husband that helped set us up in business - because he wanted us to succeed - and he was conned by her as well. She played on his ego of what a great businessman he is. The deal was that HE was to be in charge of (successfully) running the business and she would do what she is good at - sales (yeah conning people I know now) My husband was just as naive to her ways as I was. He suggested this as a way for both my daughter and I to have a successful business - together. He didn't steal but because of his business savvy he recognized that things just weren't adding up. She let him come into the office - but would give him "worthless work" to do and so he was only there a few hours a week because she was also so dysfunctional at work and would act inappropriately in the office - i.e. screaming at the employees etc. Because she behaved the way she did the employees would come to my husband to "report" things she did, ways she was spending money and such. Office gossip focused on the wicked witch of the office. Of course they were all to scared of her to say anything to her face. Neither of us were EVER "allowed" to see the true financials because she knew quite well what she was up to and she wasn't about to share that with us - especially because just looking he would know something was wrong. Also I don't think for a while he really thought she was capable of stealing from her own mother until he faced the black and white himself. HE NEVER stole a dime, but once she stopped coming into the office he was able to snoop around and UNCOVERED the paperwork that showed her theft and then brought the paperwork to me and we visited the lawyer together. My husband financially takes care of me in every way and there is no problem there.</p><p>I am now, too, on disability - but it cost us a lot of money for health insurance while I was waiting to get Medicare because she fired me from my own company.</p><p></p><p>Sorry if I wasn't clear about my husbands role - but we are still very much together and both equally dumb-founded how cruel a daughter can be to steal for her sick and disabled mother. My husband's real concern is that NO ONE takes advantage of me financially so I can continue to live as I do now should anything happen to him because he is older and I am so sick - also she is my only child. We have asked HIS son to step in should I need help in the future because we both now recognize that she is not to be trusted. He is disgusted that my very own daughter, would cheat and steal from me as anyone would rightly be. Also, right along with me we are just like "WOW" to her statement that she wants ME to apologize to her for telling her she is a thief??? Especially since we have retained the documentation (paperwork) all these years to prove to ourselves what she is and what she is capable of. It is so hard for my husband to see this torn and shredded mother/daughter situation because we are so "normal" and she is so "dysfunction" He hates that it hurts me this way and I think tries more to encourage the relationship - but NEVER trust her with money - where I am more - 'The more opportunities I give her to get close to me - the more I endanger myself. Ironic - everyone keeps telling me I need the mother/daughter relationship with the added DON'T EVER TRUST HER WITH MONEY WTF???</p><p>EDITED TO ADD: Wanted to add that my husband is the meek accountant type and I think he was "cowed" by her too. He had no idea how to deal with the situation once we found ourselves in it, and frankly I think her behaviors scared him and he was reluctant to confront her. Trust me her "RAGE" is off the charts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 635225, member: 18366"] Yes it is my husband that helped set us up in business - because he wanted us to succeed - and he was conned by her as well. She played on his ego of what a great businessman he is. The deal was that HE was to be in charge of (successfully) running the business and she would do what she is good at - sales (yeah conning people I know now) My husband was just as naive to her ways as I was. He suggested this as a way for both my daughter and I to have a successful business - together. He didn't steal but because of his business savvy he recognized that things just weren't adding up. She let him come into the office - but would give him "worthless work" to do and so he was only there a few hours a week because she was also so dysfunctional at work and would act inappropriately in the office - i.e. screaming at the employees etc. Because she behaved the way she did the employees would come to my husband to "report" things she did, ways she was spending money and such. Office gossip focused on the wicked witch of the office. Of course they were all to scared of her to say anything to her face. Neither of us were EVER "allowed" to see the true financials because she knew quite well what she was up to and she wasn't about to share that with us - especially because just looking he would know something was wrong. Also I don't think for a while he really thought she was capable of stealing from her own mother until he faced the black and white himself. HE NEVER stole a dime, but once she stopped coming into the office he was able to snoop around and UNCOVERED the paperwork that showed her theft and then brought the paperwork to me and we visited the lawyer together. My husband financially takes care of me in every way and there is no problem there. I am now, too, on disability - but it cost us a lot of money for health insurance while I was waiting to get Medicare because she fired me from my own company. Sorry if I wasn't clear about my husbands role - but we are still very much together and both equally dumb-founded how cruel a daughter can be to steal for her sick and disabled mother. My husband's real concern is that NO ONE takes advantage of me financially so I can continue to live as I do now should anything happen to him because he is older and I am so sick - also she is my only child. We have asked HIS son to step in should I need help in the future because we both now recognize that she is not to be trusted. He is disgusted that my very own daughter, would cheat and steal from me as anyone would rightly be. Also, right along with me we are just like "WOW" to her statement that she wants ME to apologize to her for telling her she is a thief??? Especially since we have retained the documentation (paperwork) all these years to prove to ourselves what she is and what she is capable of. It is so hard for my husband to see this torn and shredded mother/daughter situation because we are so "normal" and she is so "dysfunction" He hates that it hurts me this way and I think tries more to encourage the relationship - but NEVER trust her with money - where I am more - 'The more opportunities I give her to get close to me - the more I endanger myself. Ironic - everyone keeps telling me I need the mother/daughter relationship with the added DON'T EVER TRUST HER WITH MONEY WTF??? EDITED TO ADD: Wanted to add that my husband is the meek accountant type and I think he was "cowed" by her too. He had no idea how to deal with the situation once we found ourselves in it, and frankly I think her behaviors scared him and he was reluctant to confront her. Trust me her "RAGE" is off the charts. [/QUOTE]
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