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my 5 year old son an his hitting, shouting, controlling over clothes he wears sleepin
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 488346" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>I just want to clarify - I never meant to imply that it was "simply a power struggle"...or that it should be addressed or disciplined as a behaviorial issue...</p><p></p><p>But a young child who cannot express their inner turmoil very well does not always act out in a logical way. It is not always easy to follow a child's rationale. </p><p></p><p>IOW - if the child consistently had a problem with a certain pair of sneakers - then Mom would see that those sneakers were the problem and could fix the issue by substituting a new pair of sneakers that fit better or were more cushioned or whatever.</p><p></p><p>But what if putting the sneakers on in the morning means there will be gym class that day? And what if the child does not like gym? What if the thought of going to gym class stirs up all kinds of fears and strong emotions? Will the child be able to express his anxieties about gym class?</p><p></p><p>Or will he instead protest putting on sneakers - ANY sneakers...no matter how many pairs his Mom tries? After all - using a child's logic, if he does not wear sneakers....then there will be no gym.</p><p></p><p>So he's using the words "The sneakers are too tight" - and he is going to have a fit before wearing them...but the real issue is "Gym class is scary."</p><p></p><p>Know what I mean??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 488346, member: 6546"] I just want to clarify - I never meant to imply that it was "simply a power struggle"...or that it should be addressed or disciplined as a behaviorial issue... But a young child who cannot express their inner turmoil very well does not always act out in a logical way. It is not always easy to follow a child's rationale. IOW - if the child consistently had a problem with a certain pair of sneakers - then Mom would see that those sneakers were the problem and could fix the issue by substituting a new pair of sneakers that fit better or were more cushioned or whatever. But what if putting the sneakers on in the morning means there will be gym class that day? And what if the child does not like gym? What if the thought of going to gym class stirs up all kinds of fears and strong emotions? Will the child be able to express his anxieties about gym class? Or will he instead protest putting on sneakers - ANY sneakers...no matter how many pairs his Mom tries? After all - using a child's logic, if he does not wear sneakers....then there will be no gym. So he's using the words "The sneakers are too tight" - and he is going to have a fit before wearing them...but the real issue is "Gym class is scary." Know what I mean?? [/QUOTE]
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