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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 340015" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I am both the health/medical proxy and legal POA. </p><p> </p><p>When I tried to open a joint checking acct the other day, the banker pointed out that my POA expires if my cousin is declared incompetent. I didn't realize the diff between general POA and durable POA. Arrgh. More forms for her to sign!!!</p><p> </p><p>The dr flat-out refuses to give her more pain medications and won't even increase her psychiatric medications. I just don't get it. I am going to call him tomorrow and tell him that you can't teach an old dog new tricks. It's just cruel.</p><p> </p><p>He points out that she was an actress so she is very dramatic. Even the nurses say that.</p><p>I understand, and I know all about enabling. But for chr*ssakes, she's 81 and on her way out!!!</p><p> </p><p>In fact, when I put up pics of her when she was young, thinking that the staff would see what she was like, and treat her as a real person, some of the nurses made nice comments, but others made rude comments. She's got a sexy pose where she is facing the camera, on her elbows, with-lots of cleavage, and one nurse asked, "Is that YOU?" </p><p>Yes.</p><p>"Why did you have your picture taken with-no clothes on?"</p><p>I am wearing clothes. It's just a sexy pose.</p><p>"I don't know why anyone would want to do that."</p><p>And, to her 8X10" glossies, incl her HS grad photo and a 1970's publicity photo, "You must think a lot of yourself to have all these pictures around."</p><p> </p><p>Arrrgh!!!!!</p><p> </p><p>So, instead of thinking of her as a whole person with-an interesting life, they judge her. (I told her, "Welcome to the South.")</p><p> </p><p>I removed two of the photos and replaced them with-smaller photos of my husband and myself. Sigh.</p><p> </p><p>Just to add a wrench to the works, for the first 2 wks, I was very polite and asked nicely if I could have a glass of water from the medication cart they have. They all said, "Oh, help yourself." Yesterday, the Head Nurse told me I can't do that anymore. She said, "We'll give you the water, it's just that we're coming up for a state visit and evaluation and have to get into the habit of doing things by the book. We can't have people coming by and just taking things off the cart."</p><p>That's just one example of the way things keep changing. Bedpan, or wheelchair? Or lift? </p><p>It all depends upon whether Big Brother is watching.</p><p> </p><p>I am sure that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and juvie are the same way.</p><p> </p><p>Sigh.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 340015, member: 3419"] I am both the health/medical proxy and legal POA. When I tried to open a joint checking acct the other day, the banker pointed out that my POA expires if my cousin is declared incompetent. I didn't realize the diff between general POA and durable POA. Arrgh. More forms for her to sign!!! The dr flat-out refuses to give her more pain medications and won't even increase her psychiatric medications. I just don't get it. I am going to call him tomorrow and tell him that you can't teach an old dog new tricks. It's just cruel. He points out that she was an actress so she is very dramatic. Even the nurses say that. I understand, and I know all about enabling. But for chr*ssakes, she's 81 and on her way out!!! In fact, when I put up pics of her when she was young, thinking that the staff would see what she was like, and treat her as a real person, some of the nurses made nice comments, but others made rude comments. She's got a sexy pose where she is facing the camera, on her elbows, with-lots of cleavage, and one nurse asked, "Is that YOU?" Yes. "Why did you have your picture taken with-no clothes on?" I am wearing clothes. It's just a sexy pose. "I don't know why anyone would want to do that." And, to her 8X10" glossies, incl her HS grad photo and a 1970's publicity photo, "You must think a lot of yourself to have all these pictures around." Arrrgh!!!!! So, instead of thinking of her as a whole person with-an interesting life, they judge her. (I told her, "Welcome to the South.") I removed two of the photos and replaced them with-smaller photos of my husband and myself. Sigh. Just to add a wrench to the works, for the first 2 wks, I was very polite and asked nicely if I could have a glass of water from the medication cart they have. They all said, "Oh, help yourself." Yesterday, the Head Nurse told me I can't do that anymore. She said, "We'll give you the water, it's just that we're coming up for a state visit and evaluation and have to get into the habit of doing things by the book. We can't have people coming by and just taking things off the cart." That's just one example of the way things keep changing. Bedpan, or wheelchair? Or lift? It all depends upon whether Big Brother is watching. I am sure that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and juvie are the same way. Sigh. [/QUOTE]
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