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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 340154" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>You need to get that durable power of attorney pronto. I was lucky that my moms lawyer was a friend and he really went above and beyond what was technically legal in getting her POA done when it was time. She hadnt had it drawn up and really wasnt in her right mind when I had to come get her but he was well aware that there was absolutely no one else to take on the job. The fact that she had one lucid moment to say that I was her daughter and could give my name, and he filled out the form. She really had no clue what she was actually doing. He knew that but it was essential. Otherwise we would have had to go to court and there simply wasnt time. I needed to be able to take her to doctors and get her moved in record time. He was a good man. </p><p></p><p>I also had some trouble with some of the nursing home staff not understanding the unique situation with the relationship between my mother and I. By the time she entered the nursing home I had become so emotionally burnt out that I could hardly function around her. I attempted to visit for around 6 to 9 months but then I just almost became in a state of panic when I saw the building. I couldnt make myself go inside. I knew she didnt even know me and she wouldnt know if I was there or not and it was only traumatizing me more. I chose to stay away. The nursing home threatened to call APS on me. I attempted to explain the situation. They didnt care. I went to APS myself and explained the situation to them before the call could be made. They understood. I had done what I was legally responsible to do for her. I was off the hook. When she died, we took care of that expense.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 340154, member: 1514"] You need to get that durable power of attorney pronto. I was lucky that my moms lawyer was a friend and he really went above and beyond what was technically legal in getting her POA done when it was time. She hadnt had it drawn up and really wasnt in her right mind when I had to come get her but he was well aware that there was absolutely no one else to take on the job. The fact that she had one lucid moment to say that I was her daughter and could give my name, and he filled out the form. She really had no clue what she was actually doing. He knew that but it was essential. Otherwise we would have had to go to court and there simply wasnt time. I needed to be able to take her to doctors and get her moved in record time. He was a good man. I also had some trouble with some of the nursing home staff not understanding the unique situation with the relationship between my mother and I. By the time she entered the nursing home I had become so emotionally burnt out that I could hardly function around her. I attempted to visit for around 6 to 9 months but then I just almost became in a state of panic when I saw the building. I couldnt make myself go inside. I knew she didnt even know me and she wouldnt know if I was there or not and it was only traumatizing me more. I chose to stay away. The nursing home threatened to call APS on me. I attempted to explain the situation. They didnt care. I went to APS myself and explained the situation to them before the call could be made. They understood. I had done what I was legally responsible to do for her. I was off the hook. When she died, we took care of that expense. [/QUOTE]
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