I got a message on face book yesterday from my aunt and it reminds me of a few other things people have said over the years regarding difficult child. She said she thinks that he doesn't even realize and is not thankful that I love/care for him so much and that he is loved by his extended family. One uncle said one time that when difficult child was younger "they" wondered if my adopting him was such a good idea. I do understand they are only concerned and care about/love me. I know they love him too. BUT I have to wonder if my sisters birth sons would have had any of the same issues, would they have said similar things.? I dont think any child should have to show they are grateful for just being born or adopted. Especially dont think kids who are adopted should have to be any more grateful than birth kids because they got a second chance. They didn't choose their situations. All kids we hope will grow to realize that they were lucky to have such love and care. My son tells me he loves me as much as he can show it. He is grateful on a case by case basis which is just like my other little neices and nephews for now. They all know they are loved. They all love us back. I would never ever consider sending him back or anything like that...totally off my radar once he was in my arms. Really, once I accepted the referral. I guess my feelings get a little hurt, and a little too easily...thinking they feel he could be more easily disposed of or something. Doesn't matter in the end, we love each other and it is what it is. just expressing myself, thanks for listening.