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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 95667" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>So sorry, tina, about your friend, your dad, everything. Leaning on a close friend can make such a difference when you're going through tough times. I know because I've done that with a couple of my friends. The one I thought was my best friend did a vanishing act on me when I really needed her. The one friend whom I considered close, but not that close, turned out to be my true best friend and we're still very very close - there is nothing about me or mine she doesn't know.</p><p></p><p>I finally got up the nerve to ask my 'supposed' best friend what happened and why she didn't respond to my calls, etc. She hemmed and hawed for a while, but finally spit it out. She said that I needed her more than she was able (or wanted) to give me. She felt overwhelmed by my phone calls at times and all the leaning on her that I was doing. She said that she simply was unable to be there for me THAT MUCH. *Ironically, about a year before I needed her she needed me and I was there - even to the point where my H became angry with me for neglecting him by being there for her!</p><p></p><p>My point is, maybe your friend is all about the good times and she can handle the small, everyday, 'run of the mill' b!tching, but she can't handle the big stuff. Could that be possible? </p><p></p><p>Hugs, tina, I know you're hurting. I hope that my thoughts don't upset you - I was just thinking that once my friend told me how she felt it helped me to put it into perspective and not take it so personally. Hugs~</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 95667, member: 2211"] So sorry, tina, about your friend, your dad, everything. Leaning on a close friend can make such a difference when you're going through tough times. I know because I've done that with a couple of my friends. The one I thought was my best friend did a vanishing act on me when I really needed her. The one friend whom I considered close, but not that close, turned out to be my true best friend and we're still very very close - there is nothing about me or mine she doesn't know. I finally got up the nerve to ask my 'supposed' best friend what happened and why she didn't respond to my calls, etc. She hemmed and hawed for a while, but finally spit it out. She said that I needed her more than she was able (or wanted) to give me. She felt overwhelmed by my phone calls at times and all the leaning on her that I was doing. She said that she simply was unable to be there for me THAT MUCH. *Ironically, about a year before I needed her she needed me and I was there - even to the point where my H became angry with me for neglecting him by being there for her! My point is, maybe your friend is all about the good times and she can handle the small, everyday, 'run of the mill' b!tching, but she can't handle the big stuff. Could that be possible? Hugs, tina, I know you're hurting. I hope that my thoughts don't upset you - I was just thinking that once my friend told me how she felt it helped me to put it into perspective and not take it so personally. Hugs~ [/QUOTE]
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