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My child moved back in. I am insane.
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 365556"><p>Insane=Bad, very bad</p><p>Using=Bad, very bad</p><p> </p><p>How old is your difficult child? 18 is still a little on the young side. Can you get her to some kind of treatment? AA or whatever is appropriate? </p><p> </p><p>Can you drug test her as part of the condition for staying in your home? I would set some parameters and boundaries. Perhaps drug testing, therapy and either a part time job or some sort of class to further her education. Nothing too drastic...but something.</p><p> </p><p>If this is not do-able, then I would offer some suggestions on other places she might live. Let her know the deal is always on the table for her if she is willing to do it/work it...and give her a week (or two max) to find a place. Give her a list of AA locations. You could also give her a gift card each week for the local grocery store for a few weeks...as a temporary gesture to help her get on her feet. But she should feel the sting of making a poor decision. Again, let her know the door is open to come back home IF and only IF she is willing to making signficant changes and get some help. If not...this is HER decision/her call. Let it be...</p><p> </p><p>In the mean time, build your strength up. This is NOT easy. Yes, it is SCARY. But, it is what it is. As Star mentioned.....don't prolong what is likely 'enevitable.' Push through this pain. You are right...you can NOT control this.</p><p> </p><p>Consider seeing a therapist of your own and going to Al Anon or FA... if you have not done these things already. </p><p> </p><p>Keep in mind this truth: You have a right to not feel "insane," and to live within your home in peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 365556"] Insane=Bad, very bad Using=Bad, very bad How old is your difficult child? 18 is still a little on the young side. Can you get her to some kind of treatment? AA or whatever is appropriate? Can you drug test her as part of the condition for staying in your home? I would set some parameters and boundaries. Perhaps drug testing, therapy and either a part time job or some sort of class to further her education. Nothing too drastic...but something. If this is not do-able, then I would offer some suggestions on other places she might live. Let her know the deal is always on the table for her if she is willing to do it/work it...and give her a week (or two max) to find a place. Give her a list of AA locations. You could also give her a gift card each week for the local grocery store for a few weeks...as a temporary gesture to help her get on her feet. But she should feel the sting of making a poor decision. Again, let her know the door is open to come back home IF and only IF she is willing to making signficant changes and get some help. If not...this is HER decision/her call. Let it be... In the mean time, build your strength up. This is NOT easy. Yes, it is SCARY. But, it is what it is. As Star mentioned.....don't prolong what is likely 'enevitable.' Push through this pain. You are right...you can NOT control this. Consider seeing a therapist of your own and going to Al Anon or FA... if you have not done these things already. Keep in mind this truth: You have a right to not feel "insane," and to live within your home in peace. [/QUOTE]
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