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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 677836" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Nobody ever tells me anything. Plus there was no contact after the accident. And my father hadn't been diagnosed yet. </p><p></p><p>I talked to my Dad...found him still in the hospital. They won't let him go home until somebody can stay with hm. THANK GOD!!!!! Oh, but he sounded so horrible and kept coughing and coughing and I felt like crying, but made myself sound strong and told him all of us wanted to help him. He let me in and told me about needing to have somebody with him before he could go home.</p><p></p><p>I thought, "Why don't t hey send him to a rehab, like they did to me after my accident????" I didn't say it to my dad. He couldn't talk without coughing. I tried to call my sister, but got no answer. I then called my brother after a loooooooooong time and when he heard it was me, he hung up. Great. Worried about dad much? Anyhow, I love the idea of a rehab as there is no other option. He is way too sick for us to watch, even if Sis and Bro did not work full time. We could not take care of him. We are not nurses. I know Bro and Sis NEED to work. It's not an option for t hem to take off. I know I couldn't do it emotionally or physically. I can barely life twenty pounds since the accident and he needs a lot of lifting. Plus I could never do it alone and I can't leave my husband for a long time, although in my heart I don't feel it would be so long. I just know I'm not the one to do it. I would be afraid I'd hurt or kill him. </p><p></p><p>I hope Sis calls back so I can tell her about the rehab option. He can think it's temporary. It won't be, but he doesn't need to know. The tears fall now as I write this. Hearing my dad sound so weak...it was hard. I lost my grandmother when I was 37. Not until now did I face losing somebody I loved as much as I love my dad. But this isn't about me. It's about him and I feel so helpless here in Wisconsin.</p><p></p><p>I am trying to arrange getting to Illinois. This requires two calls: One from Princess so I can ask w hen I can come to her house and stay a few days. The other is from my sister to make sure she will drive me to see him. Weekends are hard. Princess if often very busy and I'm sure Sis has plans too.</p><p></p><p>All I can do now is wait. </p><p></p><p>Every time I hear my father's coughing in my head, I start crying again. He was always strong and independent. This is so sad for him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 677836, member: 1550"] Nobody ever tells me anything. Plus there was no contact after the accident. And my father hadn't been diagnosed yet. I talked to my Dad...found him still in the hospital. They won't let him go home until somebody can stay with hm. THANK GOD!!!!! Oh, but he sounded so horrible and kept coughing and coughing and I felt like crying, but made myself sound strong and told him all of us wanted to help him. He let me in and told me about needing to have somebody with him before he could go home. I thought, "Why don't t hey send him to a rehab, like they did to me after my accident????" I didn't say it to my dad. He couldn't talk without coughing. I tried to call my sister, but got no answer. I then called my brother after a loooooooooong time and when he heard it was me, he hung up. Great. Worried about dad much? Anyhow, I love the idea of a rehab as there is no other option. He is way too sick for us to watch, even if Sis and Bro did not work full time. We could not take care of him. We are not nurses. I know Bro and Sis NEED to work. It's not an option for t hem to take off. I know I couldn't do it emotionally or physically. I can barely life twenty pounds since the accident and he needs a lot of lifting. Plus I could never do it alone and I can't leave my husband for a long time, although in my heart I don't feel it would be so long. I just know I'm not the one to do it. I would be afraid I'd hurt or kill him. I hope Sis calls back so I can tell her about the rehab option. He can think it's temporary. It won't be, but he doesn't need to know. The tears fall now as I write this. Hearing my dad sound so weak...it was hard. I lost my grandmother when I was 37. Not until now did I face losing somebody I loved as much as I love my dad. But this isn't about me. It's about him and I feel so helpless here in Wisconsin. I am trying to arrange getting to Illinois. This requires two calls: One from Princess so I can ask w hen I can come to her house and stay a few days. The other is from my sister to make sure she will drive me to see him. Weekends are hard. Princess if often very busy and I'm sure Sis has plans too. All I can do now is wait. Every time I hear my father's coughing in my head, I start crying again. He was always strong and independent. This is so sad for him. [/QUOTE]
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