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My dear sweet Mom was a total PITA all weekend!
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 523696" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Thinking back to when my aunt was living with and caring for my very ill, bedridden gma who was NOT combative or nasty most of the time (usually too busy talking to and caring for the dogs and cats in her mind and snugglng with her in real life cats), she was very much not herself. she was snappish, and it was the only period of time other than when she was in high school that I ever saw her yell at anyone, and she did it several times that i saw. since we lived 800 miles away, that was a whole lot.</p><p></p><p>so your gma and gpa are taking a big toll, but that is a big reason for a full checkup - the stress really can cause a lot of physical problems. How can you get a caregiver to help her with gma and gpa? Are there other sblings who can help with the financial cost of that or by taking over on a regular schedule? if not, talk to area churches even if you are not a member. shortly after I had thank you i learned that if i had contacted area churches other than the one we belonged to, they would have sent someone to help us 2-3 times a week, one would have helped from 45 min away that often, at no charge (I was on total bedrest for 5 weeks, and absolutely none of my family members would do anything to help even though i had 2 small children.)</p><p></p><p>So try area churches to see if they have a ladies group that would help or even an eldercare program. your mom might object for a while, but the family needs to over-rule her for her own good. Caregivers that get burned out or don't have respite can snap and end up abusing someone when they normally would never do anything like htat. Stress does nasty things to anyone, and that can be one side effect, esp if the person you are caring for is grumpy/unpleasant. you also may have to think about a nursing home for gma and gpa if it is too much stress for your mom. her health should be as important as their happiness, in my opinion. would she see a therapist to discuss your concerns for her and your gparents/ i mean go with you to a therapist to talk about the situation and what would be a more livable arrangement for them that would not be so hard on her? It has to be hard to see her so stressed and unhappy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 523696, member: 1233"] Thinking back to when my aunt was living with and caring for my very ill, bedridden gma who was NOT combative or nasty most of the time (usually too busy talking to and caring for the dogs and cats in her mind and snugglng with her in real life cats), she was very much not herself. she was snappish, and it was the only period of time other than when she was in high school that I ever saw her yell at anyone, and she did it several times that i saw. since we lived 800 miles away, that was a whole lot. so your gma and gpa are taking a big toll, but that is a big reason for a full checkup - the stress really can cause a lot of physical problems. How can you get a caregiver to help her with gma and gpa? Are there other sblings who can help with the financial cost of that or by taking over on a regular schedule? if not, talk to area churches even if you are not a member. shortly after I had thank you i learned that if i had contacted area churches other than the one we belonged to, they would have sent someone to help us 2-3 times a week, one would have helped from 45 min away that often, at no charge (I was on total bedrest for 5 weeks, and absolutely none of my family members would do anything to help even though i had 2 small children.) So try area churches to see if they have a ladies group that would help or even an eldercare program. your mom might object for a while, but the family needs to over-rule her for her own good. Caregivers that get burned out or don't have respite can snap and end up abusing someone when they normally would never do anything like htat. Stress does nasty things to anyone, and that can be one side effect, esp if the person you are caring for is grumpy/unpleasant. you also may have to think about a nursing home for gma and gpa if it is too much stress for your mom. her health should be as important as their happiness, in my opinion. would she see a therapist to discuss your concerns for her and your gparents/ i mean go with you to a therapist to talk about the situation and what would be a more livable arrangement for them that would not be so hard on her? It has to be hard to see her so stressed and unhappy. [/QUOTE]
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