Thank you all so very much for being so supportive and kind. It has been wonderful to find a website where other parents don't just tell you to "ignore the issues, teens will be teens, smoking pot and lying aren't that bad. I hope I can be of some sort of support to you all as well when I have something I can add. Many of you are dealing with very heavy and complex issues and I give you much credit for your courage and determination to help your children.