Hi, I am new to the forums and thought I would introduce myself. I have 1 easy child, 8 years old. He is the oldest, loves computers, math and pokemon. Other than the regular things boys do, like drumming pencils on a desk. He is relatively easy. My difficult child is 6, with ADHD and ODD. The ODD is what everyone tends to notice. At home he tends to be defiant, argumentitive, and sometimes violent with his brother. He will walk up and slap easy child for no reason. And his answer is always the same. I didn't mean to. He refuses to admit that any of the things that happen are his fault, always his teachers/principals/brothers etc... We are at a point now where I can sit with him after we have calmed down, and go over exactly what happened, and get him to see what he did wrong, but that is only part of the time. Concequenses mean nothing for him. He doesn't relate them to what he did, only that we are mean for doing it. He was diagnosed by a pediatrician at 4, when he was having difficulty at his daycare. Things seemed to get better. He had some rough days, but nothing out of control. When he started Kindergarten, I was getting notes every week about the trouble he was having. The teachers were aware of his problems, and I thought they would do what he needed. Boy was I wrong. After 2 meetings, 1 of which was a group of 12 from the school, and 3 suspensions, I realized they weren't trying to do anything to help him. In fact kid in his class were telling him they weren't his friends and that he was dumb, and the teacher did nothing about it. I removed him from that school, hopeing a fresh start would help. He had 2 really good months, with just a couple little issues here and there, and then he had a major meltdown, that started as a 1 week suspension, and has turned into 3 as we wait for the ARP meeting he is required to have before he can go back. I am lucky to have a few friends with children who suffer from different disorders, and they suggesed an IEP, which I am going to discuss with his Principal next week. I have also found a therapist difficult child seems interested in meeting, and I am going to call to set up and appointment first thing Monday. I just really hope this helps.