I have 2 boys, 17 and 19. I m a recovering alcoholic and lived in a sober living environment in our home town for 6 months (may-Nov, 2012) I have been home for 6 months, had a 2 week relapse and have now been sober for 60 days, after a 10 month period of sobriety. While I was gone my oldest was in college 2 hours away. We recently found out he is suspended from college due to failing All of his classes this semester. He also rec'd an MIP for pot in Jan, was on diversion and recently completed that. He is a pretty good kid, popular and friendly, played football in HS and had acceptable grades. My 17 year old lived with my sister for his junior year of high school, my sister and her husband have a very stable life and were excellent role models, they also have 3 young boys. My sister recently discovered my son was taking out her in-laws boat with his friends, hooking up friends with pot (his drug screen was negative) video taped a friend having sex with a girl, trespassing on my sisters' friends property and using it as a shooting range. Both boys are on restriction and can only go to work and back. My relationship with- my sister and her husband is on the rocks, but not past repair. I have awesome support in the AA community. My biggest problem is my children's lack of insight into the seriousness of what is going on...they are angry at me and their dad (their dad and I live together in the same house, we are frinds and have separate living areas, mostly for financial reasons) Both boys will be going to therapists.....I am sure so much of this has to do with my alcoholism and not being in the home......How much rope do I give them to hang themselves and how much do I help them....do I just keep "doing the next right thing and support them while they are trying to earn back our trust? Appreciate any advice...this is my first post on this site!