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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 137527" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>Barbara, I'm coming in to this late too, but I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of the loss of your father. Even if it's expected, when it happens, it's still a shock. The others have given you excellent advice. I won't be much help because my situation was very different. My dad died suddenly and unexpectedly almost thirty years ago. My mom had been an invalid for years and was totally dependent on him. We had not yet moved to Tennessee then but my younger brothers' family was here and moved in to my mom's house with her, so it more fell to them. </p><p> </p><p>My dad died just days before his 67th birthday - way too young. And he died just two days after I had made a visit to Tennessee so he and my mom could meet my infant daughter, their first granddaughter. I think that was the hardest part for me, that he wasn't around to be a part of his grandchildren's lives. There were only three of them when he died ... my older brothers oldest two boys and my daughter who was just a baby, and all three lived out-of-state from my parents. After he died my older brother had a third son, I had my son, and my younger brother had three children, and my dad never knew any these last five. He would have loved them so.</p><p> </p><p>After the death of a family member, the "firsts" are always the hardest ... their first birthday without them, the first Christmas, the anniversary of their death, etc. and those days are always the hardest to get through. Your mom may want and need to talk and she may not ... just follow her lead. Be there for her and listen as long as she needs you to.</p><p> </p><p>Sending many hugs to you Barbara. I will keep your family in my thoughts and my prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 137527, member: 1883"] Barbara, I'm coming in to this late too, but I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of the loss of your father. Even if it's expected, when it happens, it's still a shock. The others have given you excellent advice. I won't be much help because my situation was very different. My dad died suddenly and unexpectedly almost thirty years ago. My mom had been an invalid for years and was totally dependent on him. We had not yet moved to Tennessee then but my younger brothers' family was here and moved in to my mom's house with her, so it more fell to them. My dad died just days before his 67th birthday - way too young. And he died just two days after I had made a visit to Tennessee so he and my mom could meet my infant daughter, their first granddaughter. I think that was the hardest part for me, that he wasn't around to be a part of his grandchildren's lives. There were only three of them when he died ... my older brothers oldest two boys and my daughter who was just a baby, and all three lived out-of-state from my parents. After he died my older brother had a third son, I had my son, and my younger brother had three children, and my dad never knew any these last five. He would have loved them so. After the death of a family member, the "firsts" are always the hardest ... their first birthday without them, the first Christmas, the anniversary of their death, etc. and those days are always the hardest to get through. Your mom may want and need to talk and she may not ... just follow her lead. Be there for her and listen as long as she needs you to. Sending many hugs to you Barbara. I will keep your family in my thoughts and my prayers. [/QUOTE]
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