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<blockquote data-quote="flutterby" data-source="post: 319464" data-attributes="member: 7083"><p>Marg - You can't be rational with an irrational person. This goes way beyond being extreme and argumentative. She has a disordered personality. </p><p></p><p>This isn't something tangible that I can use as a discussion. It's a philosophy - masking as a religion - and arguing that with her is only going to reinforce her agreement with it. She will not, for whatever reason, see that I am trying to have a discussion with her. She will see it that I am shooting it down and that's that. </p><p></p><p>Like when I told her I wanted her to be really good about taking her vitamins. She was convinced that I wanted her to take vitamins only because she became a vegetarian; and of course I was wrong about that because she's done <em>all</em> of the research and she <em>knows</em> that she is still getting everything she needs. It doesn't matter that I told her that in today's society, with our current diets, it's hard for anyone to get everything they need. In her mind, I didn't agree/believe with her, therefore she flat out refuses to take them. I even got her chewable ones.</p><p></p><p>What I have to do is constantly bring reality to her with things that are concrete. So, when she says, "You never do anything for me", I can say, "I've done X, Y and Z." Or, when she says that she has hardly any clothes, I can say, "We just spent $500 on new clothes for you and have since bought you more." Tangible things.</p><p></p><p>I've always been very open minded and have allowed my kids to explore and decide for themselves what they believe, while also making sure to teach my values. This, however, goes too far beyond that. Especially in her state of mind. This goes against everything I feel is right.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterby, post: 319464, member: 7083"] Marg - You can't be rational with an irrational person. This goes way beyond being extreme and argumentative. She has a disordered personality. This isn't something tangible that I can use as a discussion. It's a philosophy - masking as a religion - and arguing that with her is only going to reinforce her agreement with it. She will not, for whatever reason, see that I am trying to have a discussion with her. She will see it that I am shooting it down and that's that. Like when I told her I wanted her to be really good about taking her vitamins. She was convinced that I wanted her to take vitamins only because she became a vegetarian; and of course I was wrong about that because she's done [I]all[/I] of the research and she [I]knows[/I] that she is still getting everything she needs. It doesn't matter that I told her that in today's society, with our current diets, it's hard for anyone to get everything they need. In her mind, I didn't agree/believe with her, therefore she flat out refuses to take them. I even got her chewable ones. What I have to do is constantly bring reality to her with things that are concrete. So, when she says, "You never do anything for me", I can say, "I've done X, Y and Z." Or, when she says that she has hardly any clothes, I can say, "We just spent $500 on new clothes for you and have since bought you more." Tangible things. I've always been very open minded and have allowed my kids to explore and decide for themselves what they believe, while also making sure to teach my values. This, however, goes too far beyond that. Especially in her state of mind. This goes against everything I feel is right. [/QUOTE]
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