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My h stays angry and upset about our difficult child
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 535200"><p>Oh PV,</p><p></p><p>This makes it so hard for you both. I understand your Hs anger but I also think that men often process feelings differently than women. I think men often have a hard time admitting to grief and sadness and it comes out as anger.... and what I am guessing is that the real feeling he is feeling is one of grief and sadness... and all the disappointment that his hopes for his son have not happened. Feelings we can all relate to.</p><p></p><p>I don't think you can convince h to feel differently.... but maybe you can help him access his feelings more deeply by sharing your own grief with him? Or ask him to see a therapist for the two of you so that you can strengthen your marraige through this. I would suggest asking him to go to counseling for himself but my guess is he won't go on his own?</p><p></p><p>My husband comes to the family alanon meetings with me.... but he says he is doing it to support me... he doesn't seem to think he needs it, although in truth I think it has helped him to stop enabling my son also.</p><p></p><p>Hugs..... it is so very painful to watch our difficult children do the things they do</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 535200"] Oh PV, This makes it so hard for you both. I understand your Hs anger but I also think that men often process feelings differently than women. I think men often have a hard time admitting to grief and sadness and it comes out as anger.... and what I am guessing is that the real feeling he is feeling is one of grief and sadness... and all the disappointment that his hopes for his son have not happened. Feelings we can all relate to. I don't think you can convince h to feel differently.... but maybe you can help him access his feelings more deeply by sharing your own grief with him? Or ask him to see a therapist for the two of you so that you can strengthen your marraige through this. I would suggest asking him to go to counseling for himself but my guess is he won't go on his own? My husband comes to the family alanon meetings with me.... but he says he is doing it to support me... he doesn't seem to think he needs it, although in truth I think it has helped him to stop enabling my son also. Hugs..... it is so very painful to watch our difficult children do the things they do TL [/QUOTE]
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