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My H tries to ruin the holidays for me~
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 390786" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Jo, it sounds like your H does have a bunch of unprocessed koi relating to his brother's death and his family overall. That said, instead of taking it out on you and trying to spoil your enjoyment, he should either let you know how he's feeling and why, go to a therapist or something to sort it out, or at least button his lip and pretend to be having fun.</p><p></p><p>My ex-H used to love picking fights with me when he had some sort of emotional crisis going on. He'd make himself unpleasant to goad me into fighting with him, then he'd blow his top at me, vent whatever emotional mess he was in and feel much better. Of course, I felt terrible afterward, but <em>HE </em>felt better. I eventually learned not to let a fight be picked. I just refused to take on anything to do with his bad mood or unpleasantness. Didn't teach ex-H to behave any better, but at least it no longer spoiled my fun.</p><p></p><p>Sending hugs, and an extra suit of rhino skin, to help you get through your holiday planning with enjoyment and serenity.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 390786, member: 3907"] Jo, it sounds like your H does have a bunch of unprocessed koi relating to his brother's death and his family overall. That said, instead of taking it out on you and trying to spoil your enjoyment, he should either let you know how he's feeling and why, go to a therapist or something to sort it out, or at least button his lip and pretend to be having fun. My ex-H used to love picking fights with me when he had some sort of emotional crisis going on. He'd make himself unpleasant to goad me into fighting with him, then he'd blow his top at me, vent whatever emotional mess he was in and feel much better. Of course, I felt terrible afterward, but [I]HE [/I]felt better. I eventually learned not to let a fight be picked. I just refused to take on anything to do with his bad mood or unpleasantness. Didn't teach ex-H to behave any better, but at least it no longer spoiled my fun. Sending hugs, and an extra suit of rhino skin, to help you get through your holiday planning with enjoyment and serenity. [/QUOTE]
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