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My H tries to ruin the holidays for me~
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 390989" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Hearts--</p><p> </p><p>My husband lost a dear family member at Christmas time when he was little....and during the holidays I always see him go through a bout of the "blues". </p><p> </p><p>And you know what? Your husband is right. It STINKS to lose someone you love...especially when you are young and very close. And there is no speech in the world that will ever repair that tear, that little hole, where the family member used to be.</p><p> </p><p>And like your husband, my husband's grumpiness used to ruin it for everybody.</p><p> </p><p>But we have now worked out a solution.</p><p> </p><p>Each year, we all give husband a little time to BE grumpy. Be a scrooge! Be angry! Be sad! Cry a little! Yell a little about how unfair it all is! Yell about how Christmas stinks and why do we need this lousy holiday anyway.</p><p> </p><p>Then, after getting all of that nastiness out of the way....we go on to enjoy the rest of the holiday season.</p><p> </p><p>And - it has worked!</p><p> </p><p>husband used to not participate in anything. But these last few years, he has shopped, decorated, planned...and actually had some fun.</p><p> </p><p>I'm not a therapist by any means....but maybe some time to allow your H his feelings would help him, too?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 390989, member: 6546"] Hearts-- My husband lost a dear family member at Christmas time when he was little....and during the holidays I always see him go through a bout of the "blues". And you know what? Your husband is right. It STINKS to lose someone you love...especially when you are young and very close. And there is no speech in the world that will ever repair that tear, that little hole, where the family member used to be. And like your husband, my husband's grumpiness used to ruin it for everybody. But we have now worked out a solution. Each year, we all give husband a little time to BE grumpy. Be a scrooge! Be angry! Be sad! Cry a little! Yell a little about how unfair it all is! Yell about how Christmas stinks and why do we need this lousy holiday anyway. Then, after getting all of that nastiness out of the way....we go on to enjoy the rest of the holiday season. And - it has worked! husband used to not participate in anything. But these last few years, he has shopped, decorated, planned...and actually had some fun. I'm not a therapist by any means....but maybe some time to allow your H his feelings would help him, too? [/QUOTE]
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