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MY husband isn't supportive of the issues with difficult child...feel alone...
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 461819" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome, IzzysMa.</p><p>I hear you! I went for years without support from husband, in great part because of his ego issue (my kid can't possibly have something wrong with-him) and in part because he thought I was the temperamental artist, overreacting. Not fun. I know how you feel about being alone in this struggle.</p><p>I agree with-the others, that family therapy and marriage counseling are in order. This will feel threatening to your husband, so you may want to wait for a diagnosis from the pediatrician and neurologist first, over the phone. Then make an appointment and have the neuro explain to BOTH of you what is going on with-your daughter. Ask him in front of your husband if this means that typical parenting techniques, such as spanking or time-outs go out the window. (Knowing full well that the answer will be yes. In this case, ask as many questions as you can that you already know the answer to, because the answer is for the benefit of your husband, Know what I mean??)</p><p>It is essential that you present a <em>united front</em>. If you can call the dr first and actually script him with-those words, do it. I've done it and 99% of doctors totally "get it" when one spouse isn't on the same page.</p><p>Also be aware that whatever diagnosis you get will not necessarily be the end-all and be-all for future dxes. Your child will change as she grows, between hormones, experiences and physical capabilities, (not to mention when you experiment with-the medications the dr gives you) and you never know what is in store. The idea of a diagnosis is to help you learn about the diagnosis and change your parenting (and help teachers) to guide your child through life and prepare her to become a contributing adult, and preferably a happy adult. A diagnosis is not a carved-in stone death sentence. I hope that makes sense.</p><p></p><p>We're here for you! All of us have felt alone at some point.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 461819, member: 3419"] Welcome, IzzysMa. I hear you! I went for years without support from husband, in great part because of his ego issue (my kid can't possibly have something wrong with-him) and in part because he thought I was the temperamental artist, overreacting. Not fun. I know how you feel about being alone in this struggle. I agree with-the others, that family therapy and marriage counseling are in order. This will feel threatening to your husband, so you may want to wait for a diagnosis from the pediatrician and neurologist first, over the phone. Then make an appointment and have the neuro explain to BOTH of you what is going on with-your daughter. Ask him in front of your husband if this means that typical parenting techniques, such as spanking or time-outs go out the window. (Knowing full well that the answer will be yes. In this case, ask as many questions as you can that you already know the answer to, because the answer is for the benefit of your husband, Know what I mean??) It is essential that you present a [I]united front[/I]. If you can call the dr first and actually script him with-those words, do it. I've done it and 99% of doctors totally "get it" when one spouse isn't on the same page. Also be aware that whatever diagnosis you get will not necessarily be the end-all and be-all for future dxes. Your child will change as she grows, between hormones, experiences and physical capabilities, (not to mention when you experiment with-the medications the dr gives you) and you never know what is in store. The idea of a diagnosis is to help you learn about the diagnosis and change your parenting (and help teachers) to guide your child through life and prepare her to become a contributing adult, and preferably a happy adult. A diagnosis is not a carved-in stone death sentence. I hope that makes sense. We're here for you! All of us have felt alone at some point. [/QUOTE]
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