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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 456943" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Welcome to our group. (((((hugs))))) It is super frustrating and hard to cope with all of what we face with our kiddos. You are not alone anymore - we understand!!! Even those ugly thoughts that no one wants but happen to us all - the ones of running away and not coming back or whatever. We have had them and you are not alone with them.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion ODD is a waste of time. Most of the time a diagnosis tells you what is going on and gives some idea of why or how to treat it. ODD does tell you that you have a set of behaviors, but gives NO,ZIP, ZILCH, ZERO, NADA help on how to treat it or stop it. The only use i have found for the diagnosis is that it is another set of letters to help make the ins co cough up $$ for treatment. That isn't even always true though. I just know that it did help one of the ins co's we had over the years approve more therapy - we only got ten sessions per "problem" meaning for each diagnosis my son could see a therapist ten times. Period. Fat lot of good just ten sessions did, but we managed to get enough diagnosis's to cover therapy for the year by including all the things like ODD that the docs could dream up to apply.</p><p></p><p>anyway, you will get a LOT farther figuring out how to help the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) than the ODD. Many of the kids with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) are incredibly anxious. Their worlds just are scary and unless the same thing happens at the same time every day they don't cope well. So setting a schedule and sticking to it as much as possible is a good thing. Some of us have found that cutting all gluten and dairy out of our kids diets make a huge change. Not all of us, my kids did not benefit from this at all, but many have seen very dramatic improvements. It would be worth a six week trial, in my opinion. And there are a LOT of products out there now that were not ten - fifteen yrs ago when we tried them. Plus a lot more good recipes, etc.... A company called Tofutti makes a cream cheese that truly is better than reg cream cheese and their ice cream sandwiches are awesome! My youngest (not a difficult child) was allergic to dairy for his first five years so we found these. I used to have to fight with my difficult child to keep him out of them because they really are that good!!</p><p></p><p>Try reading "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It is really helpful, or has been for most of us. Also start creating a Parent Report - a document that has ALL the info on your difficult child in one binder. The link in my signature should take you to the description of the report and the outline for it. IT was devised by the warrior moms here before I joined and is one of the most powerful tools you will ever have to help your child.</p><p></p><p>Also take a look at what is going on at school that he doesn't want to go. What could be changed to help him? WIth a Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified diagnosis he is eligible for an IEP to make his education suit his needs and we can help you learn more about that if you don't have one or don't have a good one. It isn't much fun for YOU, but often the "fun" things like festivals, fairs, special outings, etc... are so fraught with anxiety for a person with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) that they truly are not fun. Many of us had to taper holiday celebrations etc.... way back in order to have our kids have any enjoyment and not blow up.</p><p></p><p>Another awesome book that might help is What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You. I forget the author, which is awful because he stops by here now and again and is a really great guy. </p><p></p><p>I hope some of this helps!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 456943, member: 1233"] Welcome to our group. (((((hugs))))) It is super frustrating and hard to cope with all of what we face with our kiddos. You are not alone anymore - we understand!!! Even those ugly thoughts that no one wants but happen to us all - the ones of running away and not coming back or whatever. We have had them and you are not alone with them. in my opinion ODD is a waste of time. Most of the time a diagnosis tells you what is going on and gives some idea of why or how to treat it. ODD does tell you that you have a set of behaviors, but gives NO,ZIP, ZILCH, ZERO, NADA help on how to treat it or stop it. The only use i have found for the diagnosis is that it is another set of letters to help make the ins co cough up $$ for treatment. That isn't even always true though. I just know that it did help one of the ins co's we had over the years approve more therapy - we only got ten sessions per "problem" meaning for each diagnosis my son could see a therapist ten times. Period. Fat lot of good just ten sessions did, but we managed to get enough diagnosis's to cover therapy for the year by including all the things like ODD that the docs could dream up to apply. anyway, you will get a LOT farther figuring out how to help the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) than the ODD. Many of the kids with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) are incredibly anxious. Their worlds just are scary and unless the same thing happens at the same time every day they don't cope well. So setting a schedule and sticking to it as much as possible is a good thing. Some of us have found that cutting all gluten and dairy out of our kids diets make a huge change. Not all of us, my kids did not benefit from this at all, but many have seen very dramatic improvements. It would be worth a six week trial, in my opinion. And there are a LOT of products out there now that were not ten - fifteen yrs ago when we tried them. Plus a lot more good recipes, etc.... A company called Tofutti makes a cream cheese that truly is better than reg cream cheese and their ice cream sandwiches are awesome! My youngest (not a difficult child) was allergic to dairy for his first five years so we found these. I used to have to fight with my difficult child to keep him out of them because they really are that good!! Try reading "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It is really helpful, or has been for most of us. Also start creating a Parent Report - a document that has ALL the info on your difficult child in one binder. The link in my signature should take you to the description of the report and the outline for it. IT was devised by the warrior moms here before I joined and is one of the most powerful tools you will ever have to help your child. Also take a look at what is going on at school that he doesn't want to go. What could be changed to help him? WIth a Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified diagnosis he is eligible for an IEP to make his education suit his needs and we can help you learn more about that if you don't have one or don't have a good one. It isn't much fun for YOU, but often the "fun" things like festivals, fairs, special outings, etc... are so fraught with anxiety for a person with Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) that they truly are not fun. Many of us had to taper holiday celebrations etc.... way back in order to have our kids have any enjoyment and not blow up. Another awesome book that might help is What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You. I forget the author, which is awful because he stops by here now and again and is a really great guy. I hope some of this helps! [/QUOTE]
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