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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 354235" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>KJS--</p><p> </p><p>I hear you. I mean that. I hear you and I know where you are coming from because husband and I faced that same kind of horrible choice three years ago...</p><p> </p><p>His job was being eliminated - BUT he could still work for the company if we were willing to pack up and move....although there was no guarantee that his job <em>there</em> would be any more secure. And if we did move and the job ended there too, it was a dead-end. But if he didn't take the job....there was no guarantee he would get one here, either.</p><p> </p><p>If you can, I think you need to try and separate emotions from practicality right now. (I know, easier said than done). Your brain really, really really wants to process all of this and go through a "grieving" period over the loss. Your brain wants to give you a chance to be emotional--angry, sad, hurt etc and get all of those feelings out. Unfortunately, grieving is never a good place from which to make decisions...</p><p> </p><p>See if you can detach and look at the situation as more of a "math problem"....and see if you can balance the equation. Figure your situation both ways...</p><p> </p><p>Here's how our household finances will look if I don't take the job (and figure in the severance and the unemployment--plus the savings from not having to buy lunch out, or commuting every day or whatever you spend money on as part of this particular career)</p><p> </p><p>Here's how our finances will look if I DO take the job (figure in the salary, PLUS the added cost of gas, plus the insurance costs etc)</p><p> </p><p>See if you can make a decision based upon just the numbers. The balance sheet should be pretty clear one way or another. And if both choices are about the same? Then you get to choose whichever one sounds more fun...going to work or staying home.</p><p> </p><p>I hope this helps a little....</p><p> </p><p>Sending ((((hugs))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 354235, member: 6546"] KJS-- I hear you. I mean that. I hear you and I know where you are coming from because husband and I faced that same kind of horrible choice three years ago... His job was being eliminated - BUT he could still work for the company if we were willing to pack up and move....although there was no guarantee that his job [I]there[/I] would be any more secure. And if we did move and the job ended there too, it was a dead-end. But if he didn't take the job....there was no guarantee he would get one here, either. If you can, I think you need to try and separate emotions from practicality right now. (I know, easier said than done). Your brain really, really really wants to process all of this and go through a "grieving" period over the loss. Your brain wants to give you a chance to be emotional--angry, sad, hurt etc and get all of those feelings out. Unfortunately, grieving is never a good place from which to make decisions... See if you can detach and look at the situation as more of a "math problem"....and see if you can balance the equation. Figure your situation both ways... Here's how our household finances will look if I don't take the job (and figure in the severance and the unemployment--plus the savings from not having to buy lunch out, or commuting every day or whatever you spend money on as part of this particular career) Here's how our finances will look if I DO take the job (figure in the salary, PLUS the added cost of gas, plus the insurance costs etc) See if you can make a decision based upon just the numbers. The balance sheet should be pretty clear one way or another. And if both choices are about the same? Then you get to choose whichever one sounds more fun...going to work or staying home. I hope this helps a little.... Sending ((((hugs)))) [/QUOTE]
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