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My little brother is getting married!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 192977" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>You know - I understand his thinking.....in a way. </p><p> </p><p>I totally get yours, and I wouldn't be upset by the "no kids" thing. It can be very hard for people with children who like and love children and can't imagine a world without them running around all cute, and laughing and everything they say is just buttercups and kittens and noteworthy. </p><p> </p><p>And maybe in their life? There won't be that element in their lives. It's their choice. But don't take offense to it. Really. I think if I had a wedding now - no one under 5 that wasnt' well behaved would get it. It's too stressful. </p><p> </p><p>Our friends son and his fiance were married not long ago. It took MONTHS and MONTHS of planning, lots of money - lots of tireless work to make it so beautiful. The church the place was well decorated, flowers thousands and thousands of live flowers, candles and decorations. This was a real celebration as the two ages 21 and 19 had never done more than hold hands their entire 3 year relationship. (no joke) </p><p> </p><p>They hired a videographer. Very expensive. As the bridesmaids walked down the aisle the little girl in front of me began to fidgit. Then twist herself onto the floor out of her mothers arms, then out of her fathers arms, then the last bridesmaid down the aisle and by this time the little girl was nearly in a full blown difficult child rage...and the parents NEVER got her up and took her out. And once their 4 year old started? Another little one started to cry, then a baby and I was amazed that none of these people took their crying kids out. </p><p> </p><p>So the entire video of their vows, their marriage has 1 crying 4 year old, 1 baby and 1 newborn crying through the whole thing. After the wedding? EVERYONE and i mean EVERYONE commented VERY little on the bride, the groom, their vows (who could hear) but EVERYONE was talking about WHO IN THE WORLD had the babies and children and WHY didnt' they take them out? Even worse? The people with the 4 year old were in the hall, it was a friend of the grooms MOTHER. They finally took the little girl to the car and left, but NEVER once said I'm sorry. When our friend asked WHY they didn't take her out of the church.....?? She said "I didn't want to get in the way of the video so and so told us they were expensive." OMG.....could have slapped her. And I overheard later the parent of the baby say - "Well they better get used to THAT sound" as if to purposely ruin the wedding. The mother of the newborn that was screaming? She stayed for the reception and FINALLY some of the older members in the family told her ALL THAT SCREAMING COULD HAVE BEEN DONE AT HOME - WITH A SITTER.....</p><p> </p><p>So I'm guessing if you have toddlers and you think that you may want them to be the star of someones wedding in a few years as flower girl or ring bearer you should take them OUT of the church if they fuss. </p><p> </p><p>As far as your brother? Save yourself the hassle - send him a card with cash with your Mom......and Herbert.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 192977, member: 4964"] You know - I understand his thinking.....in a way. I totally get yours, and I wouldn't be upset by the "no kids" thing. It can be very hard for people with children who like and love children and can't imagine a world without them running around all cute, and laughing and everything they say is just buttercups and kittens and noteworthy. And maybe in their life? There won't be that element in their lives. It's their choice. But don't take offense to it. Really. I think if I had a wedding now - no one under 5 that wasnt' well behaved would get it. It's too stressful. Our friends son and his fiance were married not long ago. It took MONTHS and MONTHS of planning, lots of money - lots of tireless work to make it so beautiful. The church the place was well decorated, flowers thousands and thousands of live flowers, candles and decorations. This was a real celebration as the two ages 21 and 19 had never done more than hold hands their entire 3 year relationship. (no joke) They hired a videographer. Very expensive. As the bridesmaids walked down the aisle the little girl in front of me began to fidgit. Then twist herself onto the floor out of her mothers arms, then out of her fathers arms, then the last bridesmaid down the aisle and by this time the little girl was nearly in a full blown difficult child rage...and the parents NEVER got her up and took her out. And once their 4 year old started? Another little one started to cry, then a baby and I was amazed that none of these people took their crying kids out. So the entire video of their vows, their marriage has 1 crying 4 year old, 1 baby and 1 newborn crying through the whole thing. After the wedding? EVERYONE and i mean EVERYONE commented VERY little on the bride, the groom, their vows (who could hear) but EVERYONE was talking about WHO IN THE WORLD had the babies and children and WHY didnt' they take them out? Even worse? The people with the 4 year old were in the hall, it was a friend of the grooms MOTHER. They finally took the little girl to the car and left, but NEVER once said I'm sorry. When our friend asked WHY they didn't take her out of the church.....?? She said "I didn't want to get in the way of the video so and so told us they were expensive." OMG.....could have slapped her. And I overheard later the parent of the baby say - "Well they better get used to THAT sound" as if to purposely ruin the wedding. The mother of the newborn that was screaming? She stayed for the reception and FINALLY some of the older members in the family told her ALL THAT SCREAMING COULD HAVE BEEN DONE AT HOME - WITH A SITTER..... So I'm guessing if you have toddlers and you think that you may want them to be the star of someones wedding in a few years as flower girl or ring bearer you should take them OUT of the church if they fuss. As far as your brother? Save yourself the hassle - send him a card with cash with your Mom......and Herbert. [/QUOTE]
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