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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 192018" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I called these the "Rule Setting" years with my easy child. So many new issues coming and at a high speed. This board can list all their experiences with pre-teens and still a new and weird one would come up.</p><p> </p><p>The beginning of the school year is a good time to go over "Rules of the Year" and make it known that there are others that will be brought to light on as needed basis (a.k.a., we don't know what they are yet).</p><p> </p><p>Isn't it funny how your child is the ONLY one in the whole world not allowed to do something (like wear make up and those shoes you didn't approve.)? Who hasn't heard, "But everyone else does ......"?</p><p> </p><p>Does she have a small group of friends that you can have a "back to school" party? Invite someone who can teach the girls about facial care. If they hear it from someone else, they will listen more than if you tell them. They are wanting the next stage of growing up and if make up is off limits, then they should learn the proper care of skin and nails. The right person should be able to convey that beauty comes from within. They do not need make up to be beautiful.</p><p> </p><p>Maybe a hairstylist can also be at the party? If the girls can spend more time on their hair, the make up issue may to into hiding (for a few months anyway?)</p><p> </p><p>I would let her change from band to art. She will otherwise end up with a bad grade in band - much of it is based on attitude.</p><p> </p><p>And of course, searching the backpack before she leaves the house is a natural consequence of her past actions.</p><p> </p><p>She is going to complain a lot about not getting her way. Stand your ground. Sometimes counting the excuses keeps it easier for you. When she comes back with another excuse, "Oh, that is # 4, interesting. #1 Everyone else does it, #2 The school allows it, #3 But I need it, # 4 Can't I just have it this one time? How many more can you think of? Haven't convinced me yet. Actually, the answer will always be "no" so please move on."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 192018, member: 5096"] I called these the "Rule Setting" years with my easy child. So many new issues coming and at a high speed. This board can list all their experiences with pre-teens and still a new and weird one would come up. The beginning of the school year is a good time to go over "Rules of the Year" and make it known that there are others that will be brought to light on as needed basis (a.k.a., we don't know what they are yet). Isn't it funny how your child is the ONLY one in the whole world not allowed to do something (like wear make up and those shoes you didn't approve.)? Who hasn't heard, "But everyone else does ......"? Does she have a small group of friends that you can have a "back to school" party? Invite someone who can teach the girls about facial care. If they hear it from someone else, they will listen more than if you tell them. They are wanting the next stage of growing up and if make up is off limits, then they should learn the proper care of skin and nails. The right person should be able to convey that beauty comes from within. They do not need make up to be beautiful. Maybe a hairstylist can also be at the party? If the girls can spend more time on their hair, the make up issue may to into hiding (for a few months anyway?) I would let her change from band to art. She will otherwise end up with a bad grade in band - much of it is based on attitude. And of course, searching the backpack before she leaves the house is a natural consequence of her past actions. She is going to complain a lot about not getting her way. Stand your ground. Sometimes counting the excuses keeps it easier for you. When she comes back with another excuse, "Oh, that is # 4, interesting. #1 Everyone else does it, #2 The school allows it, #3 But I need it, # 4 Can't I just have it this one time? How many more can you think of? Haven't convinced me yet. Actually, the answer will always be "no" so please move on." [/QUOTE]
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