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<blockquote data-quote="Wiped Out" data-source="post: 96719" data-attributes="member: 1631"><p>Thanks all!</p><p></p><p>Lisa-I think we may be sisters!</p><p></p><p>BBK-You are right-she can't make me feel guilty! I'm working at not feeling that way!</p><p></p><p>Jo-Thanks-I will enjoy the holidays-I refuse to change my plans even with the guilt-and hopefully that will be gone soon.</p><p></p><p>Heather-That is basically what I did tell her. I'm getting more assertive in my old age!</p><p></p><p>Kjs-I'm sorry you are missing your mom right now. It's great your parents gave you a great childhood!!</p><p></p><p>Fran-You're right-I need to do the best I can and move on!</p><p></p><p>Marguerite-Yeah-she'll still whine. She feels a special attachment to difficult child (wish he felt it in return). My brother doesn't get it so much now that his kids are grown and my sister lives further away and doesn't celebrate the holidays so she doesn't get it at much and is better at detachment than me. Long ago we decided that we wouldn't travel on Christmas Day-luckily we have stuck to that no matter what. We always invite Mom to come to our house for the holidays but she always declines. She's fine with it being on a day other than Christmas but wants us to stay a few days in which case we would all be going crazy.</p><p></p><p>Karen-Well said! </p><p></p><p>Star-Yikes-time to give up that guilt-I truly don't want bald spots, acne or frown lines!</p><p></p><p>The good thing is my guilt isn't strong enough to make me change my plans or do what I feel is right for my family-in the old days it might have been but with difficult child I know what will and what won't work. She has a hard time accepting this because I truly don't think she can see things from another's view point.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Wiped Out, post: 96719, member: 1631"] Thanks all! Lisa-I think we may be sisters! BBK-You are right-she can't make me feel guilty! I'm working at not feeling that way! Jo-Thanks-I will enjoy the holidays-I refuse to change my plans even with the guilt-and hopefully that will be gone soon. Heather-That is basically what I did tell her. I'm getting more assertive in my old age! Kjs-I'm sorry you are missing your mom right now. It's great your parents gave you a great childhood!! Fran-You're right-I need to do the best I can and move on! Marguerite-Yeah-she'll still whine. She feels a special attachment to difficult child (wish he felt it in return). My brother doesn't get it so much now that his kids are grown and my sister lives further away and doesn't celebrate the holidays so she doesn't get it at much and is better at detachment than me. Long ago we decided that we wouldn't travel on Christmas Day-luckily we have stuck to that no matter what. We always invite Mom to come to our house for the holidays but she always declines. She's fine with it being on a day other than Christmas but wants us to stay a few days in which case we would all be going crazy. Karen-Well said! Star-Yikes-time to give up that guilt-I truly don't want bald spots, acne or frown lines! The good thing is my guilt isn't strong enough to make me change my plans or do what I feel is right for my family-in the old days it might have been but with difficult child I know what will and what won't work. She has a hard time accepting this because I truly don't think she can see things from another's view point. [/QUOTE]
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