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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 378273" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I get that- but- unless the local courts of whatever jurisdiction I am in- let me back up- the jurisdiction I live in determines the juvenile court in charge of difficult child- unless the PO and GAL of the jurisdiction I live in backs me up, state Department of Juvenile Justice will NOT stop contact or limit contact between a grandparent and grandchild in their custody.</p><p></p><p>I hope I worded that in a way that made some sense.</p><p></p><p>I was able/ allowed to have my mother send her letters thru me so I could monitor them last year while difficult child was in Department of Juvenile Justice only because his PO sent an email to Department of Juvenile Justice saying this was warranted. </p><p></p><p>I could tell my mother where to get off in 2 seconds but I don't want her writing or otherwise contacting difficult child to brainwash him so I have tried to handle things in a way where the contact goeas thru me. I understand he'll be 18 in a few years- but he isn't 18yo yet and God only knows what age he is mentally. I know he doesn't need her koi- not the guilt trip for not "taking care of her" blame game, extended family koi, etc. </p><p></p><p>I am about to a point though where I got with my bro- whatever court battle it takes, just bring it on and get it over with. However, that doesn't get anywhere as long as difficult child is in Department of Juvenile Justice custody and he'll be there for over a year most likely.</p><p></p><p>The current battle- she keep s saying she has grandparent's rights- I keep saying I have parental rights and I haven't stopped contact- I am monitoring contact. What she doesn't know yet is that without approval of PO and GAL, and subsequently Department of Juvenile Justice, I can't monitor it. And with everything in me- I KNOW she causes more harm in my son. She told him when he was about 11 or 12yo that he was getting big enough to stand up to me and I wouldn't be able to make him mind. When he'd just started a mood stabilizer and I was trying to keep him on schedule and we visited her, she woke him up during the night to ask him if he wanted to eat some desert. When he was about 9-10yo, she refused to turn off nancy grace show about the man who kidnapped, raped, and buried the little girl alive. I had to take difficult child out of the room to prevent him hearing the details.</p><p></p><p>My issue with courts people is that they are as ignorant as my family- instead of believing me and standing up against the person they should be- they are too wrapped up in trying to fix it all. And believing the people that are lying. They are as blind and as dysfunctional as my family. BUT- it is in my MH evaluation that there was abuse in my family as a child. So yes, if this ever makes it to court I more than likely would win. The problem though is that it doesn't make it to court when the lower courts people or state Department of Juvenile Justice are in control/custody of difficult child, as they are now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 378273, member: 3699"] I get that- but- unless the local courts of whatever jurisdiction I am in- let me back up- the jurisdiction I live in determines the juvenile court in charge of difficult child- unless the PO and GAL of the jurisdiction I live in backs me up, state Department of Juvenile Justice will NOT stop contact or limit contact between a grandparent and grandchild in their custody. I hope I worded that in a way that made some sense. I was able/ allowed to have my mother send her letters thru me so I could monitor them last year while difficult child was in Department of Juvenile Justice only because his PO sent an email to Department of Juvenile Justice saying this was warranted. I could tell my mother where to get off in 2 seconds but I don't want her writing or otherwise contacting difficult child to brainwash him so I have tried to handle things in a way where the contact goeas thru me. I understand he'll be 18 in a few years- but he isn't 18yo yet and God only knows what age he is mentally. I know he doesn't need her koi- not the guilt trip for not "taking care of her" blame game, extended family koi, etc. I am about to a point though where I got with my bro- whatever court battle it takes, just bring it on and get it over with. However, that doesn't get anywhere as long as difficult child is in Department of Juvenile Justice custody and he'll be there for over a year most likely. The current battle- she keep s saying she has grandparent's rights- I keep saying I have parental rights and I haven't stopped contact- I am monitoring contact. What she doesn't know yet is that without approval of PO and GAL, and subsequently Department of Juvenile Justice, I can't monitor it. And with everything in me- I KNOW she causes more harm in my son. She told him when he was about 11 or 12yo that he was getting big enough to stand up to me and I wouldn't be able to make him mind. When he'd just started a mood stabilizer and I was trying to keep him on schedule and we visited her, she woke him up during the night to ask him if he wanted to eat some desert. When he was about 9-10yo, she refused to turn off nancy grace show about the man who kidnapped, raped, and buried the little girl alive. I had to take difficult child out of the room to prevent him hearing the details. My issue with courts people is that they are as ignorant as my family- instead of believing me and standing up against the person they should be- they are too wrapped up in trying to fix it all. And believing the people that are lying. They are as blind and as dysfunctional as my family. BUT- it is in my MH evaluation that there was abuse in my family as a child. So yes, if this ever makes it to court I more than likely would win. The problem though is that it doesn't make it to court when the lower courts people or state Department of Juvenile Justice are in control/custody of difficult child, as they are now. [/QUOTE]
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