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My mother is taking over my life and I don't know what to do anymore!
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 655078" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You really NEED to check your credit with all 3 companies. A friend of mine's father in law started doing things like your mom is doing iwth your bank. She didn't even know how he got the info, esp on her, but he did. They went to buy a new house and their credit was a mess. Her father in law didn't just cancel their debit card and a few of their credit cards, he opened new cards and got them sent to him. He then charged them to the max and never made a payment. They knew nothing about this for over a year! They almost lost their home and they never were able to get that new house. They worked out a payment arrangement instead of pressing charges but the father in law only made payments for about 3 mos. My friend divorced her husband after 2 yrs of this mess because she just couldn't cope with it any more. each time they thought they had it cleared up, the father in law would do it again somehow and her husband flat out refused to go to the cops or take any real steps to make him pay them the money he charged to them. </p><p></p><p>You are going to have to be super firm with your mom. You may have to close the account and open new ones if your mom cannot be taken off the accounts. You may need her permission to remove her name and she may not agree. If so, go to a different bank and arrange to have your payroll deposited there and the bills moved to that bank. Leave the old acct open but take your $$ out of it and take your name off of it. The bank can refuse to remove her name, but they cannot make you have your $$ sent to them or make you use the account. </p><p></p><p>Go to school and tell them IN WRITING that NO ONE but you and the kids' father is to have info about IEP's or anything else, and if they violate this then you will file formal complaints. If your mom shows up to an IEP, tell the school officials there that she is NOT part of the team and is NOT allowed into the meeting or to have any information disclosed to her after the meeting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 655078, member: 1233"] You really NEED to check your credit with all 3 companies. A friend of mine's father in law started doing things like your mom is doing iwth your bank. She didn't even know how he got the info, esp on her, but he did. They went to buy a new house and their credit was a mess. Her father in law didn't just cancel their debit card and a few of their credit cards, he opened new cards and got them sent to him. He then charged them to the max and never made a payment. They knew nothing about this for over a year! They almost lost their home and they never were able to get that new house. They worked out a payment arrangement instead of pressing charges but the father in law only made payments for about 3 mos. My friend divorced her husband after 2 yrs of this mess because she just couldn't cope with it any more. each time they thought they had it cleared up, the father in law would do it again somehow and her husband flat out refused to go to the cops or take any real steps to make him pay them the money he charged to them. You are going to have to be super firm with your mom. You may have to close the account and open new ones if your mom cannot be taken off the accounts. You may need her permission to remove her name and she may not agree. If so, go to a different bank and arrange to have your payroll deposited there and the bills moved to that bank. Leave the old acct open but take your $$ out of it and take your name off of it. The bank can refuse to remove her name, but they cannot make you have your $$ sent to them or make you use the account. Go to school and tell them IN WRITING that NO ONE but you and the kids' father is to have info about IEP's or anything else, and if they violate this then you will file formal complaints. If your mom shows up to an IEP, tell the school officials there that she is NOT part of the team and is NOT allowed into the meeting or to have any information disclosed to her after the meeting. [/QUOTE]
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