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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 27583" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Ahh! <strong>Ending the Homework Hassle </strong>by John Rosemond is a book for you to read. (You'll have to add in your own recipe for your difficult child but the book has some great detachment ideas.)</p><p></p><p>What happens if difficult child doesn't do his homework? I mean, will the school hold him back? Call you and hold you accountable? Send a note home? Think about the worst thing that could happen and work backward from that. It's hard to see the big picture if you're under stress and worried about every assignment. If he flunks a class, maybe holding him back or doing summer school is what he needs to show him things aren't working out. Both our kids, incl our easy child daughter, had to fail a class to get them to wake up. Now they get almost all A's and B's. <strong>I can't say enough for natural consequences.</strong></p><p></p><p>Sounds SO much like us (incl the headaches!). I've done neurofeedback to help with-the headaches and it really works. medications should be a fallback, not a staple.</p><p></p><p>You have GOT to get on the same page with-your husband. {{{cyberhugs}}}</p><p>If you can get your husband to buy into consequences, such as, no homework=no playtime, you'll be home free. Then you walk away and read a book. </p><p>Actually, I have to read a book at the kitchen table because our difficult child <strong>has</strong> to have other people around (sigh :crazy:) but the rule is, he does his work, I'll do mine nearby only if he leaves me alone. He just wants my presence.</p><p>We also learned to divide homework into sections. I used to press to get him to do all of it, which rarely works for any of our g'sfg. Now he does spelling, then plays, he does math, then plays. I time it on the microwave timer for 15 min. increments. Because it's a mechanical beep and not my voice, it helps both of us detach.</p><p></p><p>You DON'T have to live like that!!!!! It can be resolved. Don't give up. </p><p> :warrior: </p><p>and this is especially for you: :bath:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 27583, member: 3419"] Ahh! [b]Ending the Homework Hassle [/b]by John Rosemond is a book for you to read. (You'll have to add in your own recipe for your difficult child but the book has some great detachment ideas.) What happens if difficult child doesn't do his homework? I mean, will the school hold him back? Call you and hold you accountable? Send a note home? Think about the worst thing that could happen and work backward from that. It's hard to see the big picture if you're under stress and worried about every assignment. If he flunks a class, maybe holding him back or doing summer school is what he needs to show him things aren't working out. Both our kids, incl our easy child daughter, had to fail a class to get them to wake up. Now they get almost all A's and B's. [b]I can't say enough for natural consequences.[/b] Sounds SO much like us (incl the headaches!). I've done neurofeedback to help with-the headaches and it really works. medications should be a fallback, not a staple. You have GOT to get on the same page with-your husband. {{{cyberhugs}}} If you can get your husband to buy into consequences, such as, no homework=no playtime, you'll be home free. Then you walk away and read a book. Actually, I have to read a book at the kitchen table because our difficult child [b]has[/b] to have other people around (sigh [img]:crazy:[/img]) but the rule is, he does his work, I'll do mine nearby only if he leaves me alone. He just wants my presence. We also learned to divide homework into sections. I used to press to get him to do all of it, which rarely works for any of our g'sfg. Now he does spelling, then plays, he does math, then plays. I time it on the microwave timer for 15 min. increments. Because it's a mechanical beep and not my voice, it helps both of us detach. You DON'T have to live like that!!!!! It can be resolved. Don't give up. [img]:warrior:[/img] and this is especially for you: [img]:bath:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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