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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 620354" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Wow. After reading this again...I don't see why YOU would leave your own house that you and husband paid for. We give our kids "roots to grow and wings to fly." Once they are of age, we have no legal right to control their activities and if they won't listen to our rules, in my opinion, THEY leave, not us. Why give them the house? They will destroy it. You and your husband deserve many wonderful years together and, if you want to live in your own home, in my opinion you should. It's entirely up to you two if you stay or leave; it should not be up to your difficult children. I mean, that's my take on things at least...It's not like you wouldn't allow them to live there if they followed your rules. They are choosing to leave if you want peace and if they refuse to give you that peace. At that point, if this were me, they'd both be facing two months to decide where they are going to live. If necessary, they can collect benefits to get help...all because they won't follow your house rules. Your house/your rules. They don't like the rules, THEY can leave. At least, that is the usual.</p><p></p><p>To COM (and anyone else interested), I was flabbergasted the first time it was suggested to me that I was as important as my children. I couldn't accept the concept. THEY were the important ones, not me. It took a long time for that to sink in...I also thought it was treacherous of me to even smile if my child was suffering, even if he/she caused it. I have walked a long path and come a long way. I'm glad you are a quicker study than me <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 620354, member: 1550"] Wow. After reading this again...I don't see why YOU would leave your own house that you and husband paid for. We give our kids "roots to grow and wings to fly." Once they are of age, we have no legal right to control their activities and if they won't listen to our rules, in my opinion, THEY leave, not us. Why give them the house? They will destroy it. You and your husband deserve many wonderful years together and, if you want to live in your own home, in my opinion you should. It's entirely up to you two if you stay or leave; it should not be up to your difficult children. I mean, that's my take on things at least...It's not like you wouldn't allow them to live there if they followed your rules. They are choosing to leave if you want peace and if they refuse to give you that peace. At that point, if this were me, they'd both be facing two months to decide where they are going to live. If necessary, they can collect benefits to get help...all because they won't follow your house rules. Your house/your rules. They don't like the rules, THEY can leave. At least, that is the usual. To COM (and anyone else interested), I was flabbergasted the first time it was suggested to me that I was as important as my children. I couldn't accept the concept. THEY were the important ones, not me. It took a long time for that to sink in...I also thought it was treacherous of me to even smile if my child was suffering, even if he/she caused it. I have walked a long path and come a long way. I'm glad you are a quicker study than me :) [/QUOTE]
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