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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 620443" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Dazed, it sounds like you made some progress with boundaries with your two difficult children yesterday. It's painful for you and for them, but it's still progress.</p><p></p><p>I hope you can continue to chip away at the mountain that has prevented you from having a good life, a peaceful, serene life that is filled with contentment.</p><p></p><p>Because Dazed, we CAN have that, regardless. Regardless of what our difficult children are doing. Or not doing.</p><p></p><p>Often, it takes getting them out of the house in order to start to have it. It is nearly impossible to live with active, untreated addiction/mental illness.</p><p></p><p>You can't talk to it, you can't reason with it, you can't get it to see your side, you can't sit down to a nice dinner with it, you can't ask it to pick up its dirty clothes, you can't loan it the car, you can't give it $5 for dinner, you can't do one single thing that describes any type of relationship with it.</p><p></p><p>And if you love it---that person who has become their disease---every time they walk by you in the hallway or through the kitchen, what you don't have with that person you love so much, your own child---is nearly impossible to bear.</p><p></p><p>Once our difficult children are adults, it's time for them to go. Once our PCs are adults, it's time for them to go.</p><p></p><p>I don't believe God meant for adults to live with adults. It doesn't work in the best of circumstances.</p><p></p><p>Wishing strength and courage and will for you to do what you need to do today---to move toward a more peaceful life for yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 620443, member: 17542"] Dazed, it sounds like you made some progress with boundaries with your two difficult children yesterday. It's painful for you and for them, but it's still progress. I hope you can continue to chip away at the mountain that has prevented you from having a good life, a peaceful, serene life that is filled with contentment. Because Dazed, we CAN have that, regardless. Regardless of what our difficult children are doing. Or not doing. Often, it takes getting them out of the house in order to start to have it. It is nearly impossible to live with active, untreated addiction/mental illness. You can't talk to it, you can't reason with it, you can't get it to see your side, you can't sit down to a nice dinner with it, you can't ask it to pick up its dirty clothes, you can't loan it the car, you can't give it $5 for dinner, you can't do one single thing that describes any type of relationship with it. And if you love it---that person who has become their disease---every time they walk by you in the hallway or through the kitchen, what you don't have with that person you love so much, your own child---is nearly impossible to bear. Once our difficult children are adults, it's time for them to go. Once our PCs are adults, it's time for them to go. I don't believe God meant for adults to live with adults. It doesn't work in the best of circumstances. Wishing strength and courage and will for you to do what you need to do today---to move toward a more peaceful life for yourself. [/QUOTE]
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