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My son, car insurance/repairs, SSI, job, a cello.... reality check please?
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 618685" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Sue, I've missed you. Sorry it's the frustration that brought you back, but it's good to "see" you.</p><p></p><p>And yes, I can totally relate. My difficult child is now 24, and I don't think he'll ever be able to fly solo either. He's living "independently", i.e. no longer with 24/7 staff, but workers come by twice a day, and his job is also a supported work environment, so he effectively has babysitters of one sort or another all day every day. On weekends, he comes over to visit, so in effect it's no different than when he was in 24/7 staffing because the only time he's alone is when he's sleeping.</p><p></p><p>And yes, the appearance of normalcy is definitely to his detriment. He's a tall, handsome, charming fellow whose behaviour just doesn't make sense to people. </p><p></p><p>Between the BiPolar (BP) which causes all sorts of erratic thinking and behaviour, and the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) that prevents him from having the foggiest clue of how other people are reacting to him, it is and always will be a mess. Still, he's not dead and he's not in jail. And he's happy. During the darkest years, those are the things I prayed for -- don't let him die, don't let him go to jail, please let him be happy.</p><p></p><p>So there you have it. I don't know that I can hope for any more than that with my difficult child, and I have 4 other children to focus on, 3 of whom also have "issues" and the 4th of whom is traumatized by the dark difficult child years. It's their turn now.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to all of you,</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 618685, member: 3907"] Sue, I've missed you. Sorry it's the frustration that brought you back, but it's good to "see" you. And yes, I can totally relate. My difficult child is now 24, and I don't think he'll ever be able to fly solo either. He's living "independently", i.e. no longer with 24/7 staff, but workers come by twice a day, and his job is also a supported work environment, so he effectively has babysitters of one sort or another all day every day. On weekends, he comes over to visit, so in effect it's no different than when he was in 24/7 staffing because the only time he's alone is when he's sleeping. And yes, the appearance of normalcy is definitely to his detriment. He's a tall, handsome, charming fellow whose behaviour just doesn't make sense to people. Between the BiPolar (BP) which causes all sorts of erratic thinking and behaviour, and the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) that prevents him from having the foggiest clue of how other people are reacting to him, it is and always will be a mess. Still, he's not dead and he's not in jail. And he's happy. During the darkest years, those are the things I prayed for -- don't let him die, don't let him go to jail, please let him be happy. So there you have it. I don't know that I can hope for any more than that with my difficult child, and I have 4 other children to focus on, 3 of whom also have "issues" and the 4th of whom is traumatized by the dark difficult child years. It's their turn now. Hugs to all of you, Trinity [/QUOTE]
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