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<blockquote data-quote="HaoZi" data-source="post: 397454"><p>I was raised knowing that I was adopted, we even did a birthday-type thing on the day of the adoption that my parents called "Happy Welcome Home Day". My mom didn't want me to search for my birth parents while she was living, and my dad still does not want to meet my bio-parents, but he does ask how they and my half-sister are doing now and then. Because I was placed privately, it was possible for information to be left for me with the agency if I ever decided to dig into my bio-past. The agency played go-between, searching for my bio-parents and finding out if they would accept a letter from me, then sent me the responses. They continued to be a go-between, keeping copies of the letters passed back and forth until everyone involved felt comfortable for an in-person meet, which they also facilitated and had staff on-hand for with experience in such things. I know there is still some contention between my bio-parents, which they pretty much keep between themselves, and I have never been allowed to know about or meet the rest of my bio-mother's family, I do kind of understand why (it's only been hinted at in what ways they are not exactly the best people to be around).</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure if this agency (which I'm pretty sure is nation-wide) would be willing to moderate/facilitate communications if he was not placed through them, but if you want the name of the agency to contact you can PM me. If nothing else they might know of good counselors for these situations in your area. That's for when he's 18 and if he is interested.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HaoZi, post: 397454"] I was raised knowing that I was adopted, we even did a birthday-type thing on the day of the adoption that my parents called "Happy Welcome Home Day". My mom didn't want me to search for my birth parents while she was living, and my dad still does not want to meet my bio-parents, but he does ask how they and my half-sister are doing now and then. Because I was placed privately, it was possible for information to be left for me with the agency if I ever decided to dig into my bio-past. The agency played go-between, searching for my bio-parents and finding out if they would accept a letter from me, then sent me the responses. They continued to be a go-between, keeping copies of the letters passed back and forth until everyone involved felt comfortable for an in-person meet, which they also facilitated and had staff on-hand for with experience in such things. I know there is still some contention between my bio-parents, which they pretty much keep between themselves, and I have never been allowed to know about or meet the rest of my bio-mother's family, I do kind of understand why (it's only been hinted at in what ways they are not exactly the best people to be around). I'm not sure if this agency (which I'm pretty sure is nation-wide) would be willing to moderate/facilitate communications if he was not placed through them, but if you want the name of the agency to contact you can PM me. If nothing else they might know of good counselors for these situations in your area. That's for when he's 18 and if he is interested. [/QUOTE]
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