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My son is bipolar is I have to decide if he should go to the state hospital.
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 721649" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>nobody here can tell you what to do. nor can they prescribe treatments. but they do.</p><p></p><p>other people's experience and history do not necessarily generalize. they are stories of one family. not your own.or mine.</p><p></p><p> nobody knows for a partcular life. nobody can. there are too many variables. and life is emergent. there is always an aspect of mystery. of not knowing. that is true for all of us.</p><p></p><p>there are pros. and there are cons. your post laid them out very clearly.</p><p></p><p>i will tell you what i read in it. (which is not necessarily what i think you should do.)</p><p></p><p>the psychiatrist believes this is son's best shot.</p><p></p><p>son has exhausted options readily available locally.</p><p></p><p>he is responding to the treatment where he is. but it is insufficient.</p><p></p><p>you worry he will feel rejected or not validated for his trying in the current situation.</p><p></p><p>you may believe sending is the best for him. but because it would be better for you as well...a respite , less stress, business-wise , etc. you seem to feel conflicted about doing what you believe is right for him.</p><p></p><p>he could someday (or you could someday) feel deep regret he did not have this opportunity.</p><p></p><p>the flip side of what you write is this: he is highly motivated and working so hard--he deserves more. would depriving him of what could benefit him, so he feels better, happier short-term, be to vote against him by taking the path of least resistance? i don't know.</p><p></p><p>the elephant in the living room is, i think, you believe he should go and want him to.</p><p>that is not wrong. </p><p></p><p>but you are the one who has to accept and decide if it is right. nobody else can. because the consequences will be yours. and the responsibility too.</p><p></p><p>i hope you keep posting. i think if you re-read your post you might find you have already decided.</p><p></p><p>take care.</p><p></p><p>ps</p><p></p><p>you matter too. crying until you throw up, panic attacks, and being unable to work to make a living; constant stress and fear--these are factors in deciding every bit as important as son's feelings.</p><p></p><p>he depends on you. your well being counts. for him and you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 721649, member: 18958"] nobody here can tell you what to do. nor can they prescribe treatments. but they do. other people's experience and history do not necessarily generalize. they are stories of one family. not your own.or mine. nobody knows for a partcular life. nobody can. there are too many variables. and life is emergent. there is always an aspect of mystery. of not knowing. that is true for all of us. there are pros. and there are cons. your post laid them out very clearly. i will tell you what i read in it. (which is not necessarily what i think you should do.) the psychiatrist believes this is son's best shot. son has exhausted options readily available locally. he is responding to the treatment where he is. but it is insufficient. you worry he will feel rejected or not validated for his trying in the current situation. you may believe sending is the best for him. but because it would be better for you as well...a respite , less stress, business-wise , etc. you seem to feel conflicted about doing what you believe is right for him. he could someday (or you could someday) feel deep regret he did not have this opportunity. the flip side of what you write is this: he is highly motivated and working so hard--he deserves more. would depriving him of what could benefit him, so he feels better, happier short-term, be to vote against him by taking the path of least resistance? i don't know. the elephant in the living room is, i think, you believe he should go and want him to. that is not wrong. but you are the one who has to accept and decide if it is right. nobody else can. because the consequences will be yours. and the responsibility too. i hope you keep posting. i think if you re-read your post you might find you have already decided. take care. ps you matter too. crying until you throw up, panic attacks, and being unable to work to make a living; constant stress and fear--these are factors in deciding every bit as important as son's feelings. he depends on you. your well being counts. for him and you. [/QUOTE]
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