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My son is blind and an addict who is using while living in my home. What do I do?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 603486" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi and welcome, although sorry you have to be here. </p><p></p><p>I think you and your wife need to think about yourselves first. I know this sounds selfish, but this grown son is well past middle age and almost died and didn't quit. Apparently, he won't and could die anyway, even if you house him. I'm sure you and your wife have done the best that you can for him and nothing worked so my suggestion, even if it sounds cruel, is to make him go to assisted living or, if he refuses, then evict him and let him decide where to go. Of course, if this is unthinkable for you and your wife, then you have no choice but to put up with whatever he is going to dish and to destroy your own golden years.</p><p></p><p>I am not bitter. I just have learned that we do not have to stop living because our grown kids insist on making dangerous choices. We can let them know that we love them and will be here if they need support, but we don't have to go down the tubes with them. Your son can get clean and learn how to function without sight. Many people do. It is his own decision, really.</p><p></p><p>Even if he is bipolar, that doesn't mean he can't get good help or that you have to take care of him for as long as you live. What will he do when you're gone? You can't live forever, and it doesn't sound like your other kids are going to take him in. Eventually, he will be out there on his own or getting assisted living help. He won't have a choice.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and I'm so sorry that you are going through this difficult time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 603486, member: 1550"] Hi and welcome, although sorry you have to be here. I think you and your wife need to think about yourselves first. I know this sounds selfish, but this grown son is well past middle age and almost died and didn't quit. Apparently, he won't and could die anyway, even if you house him. I'm sure you and your wife have done the best that you can for him and nothing worked so my suggestion, even if it sounds cruel, is to make him go to assisted living or, if he refuses, then evict him and let him decide where to go. Of course, if this is unthinkable for you and your wife, then you have no choice but to put up with whatever he is going to dish and to destroy your own golden years. I am not bitter. I just have learned that we do not have to stop living because our grown kids insist on making dangerous choices. We can let them know that we love them and will be here if they need support, but we don't have to go down the tubes with them. Your son can get clean and learn how to function without sight. Many people do. It is his own decision, really. Even if he is bipolar, that doesn't mean he can't get good help or that you have to take care of him for as long as you live. What will he do when you're gone? You can't live forever, and it doesn't sound like your other kids are going to take him in. Eventually, he will be out there on his own or getting assisted living help. He won't have a choice. Hugs and I'm so sorry that you are going through this difficult time. [/QUOTE]
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