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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 696664" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>I understand the worry too. Even when things go well, there's this constant, underlying tension. It's like a subsonic hum...something just almost out of your range of hearing but just making you constantly on edge.</p><p></p><p>Poor Jabber. He puts up with so much. I came home yesterday and just fell apart for 15 minutes. Worried about my son getting his community service done...he's blown it off so many times he could have done it and he has to be done by the 15th, but he works most days and doesn't seem willing to put in more than a couple hours on his days off. If he isn't done, or if the church custodian won't <em>say</em> he is, then we'll have to kick him out. In fact, Jabber won't even be able to say where he is, so can't know. He'll have to do paperwork at work if there's a warrant. He's right on the edge of doing well...but realistically, the only things he's fully done right since we let him stay July 1 is work. Yesterday was the first time EVER he gave me the full 1/2 his check. He borrowed $3 from Jabber two weeks ago and hasn't paid it back. He doesn't understand why $3 is such a big deal...but it is. He said he'd pay it back and he didn't. It's trust and respect and responsibility all wrapped up in $3 and he keeps ignoring it or saying he doesn't have it. We still find dirty dishes in the sink, and I don't mind a couple now and then, but darnit we told him to clean up after himself!</p><p></p><p>Sorry...made this all about me, but my point is, it's one thing after another and though he isn't doing anything <em>wrong</em> he isn't doing it right enough to keep me from being constantly on the verge of screaming about something.</p><p></p><p>I don't know how to stop worrying. I have nagged and nagged about the community service for six weeks! For nothing. Jabber says, "It's on him." Even my son says, "It's on me!" but I still can't stop worrying. It's maddening. It was easier when he didn't live at home. When I didn't <em>know</em> where he was supposed to be from day to day. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 696664, member: 17309"] I understand the worry too. Even when things go well, there's this constant, underlying tension. It's like a subsonic hum...something just almost out of your range of hearing but just making you constantly on edge. Poor Jabber. He puts up with so much. I came home yesterday and just fell apart for 15 minutes. Worried about my son getting his community service done...he's blown it off so many times he could have done it and he has to be done by the 15th, but he works most days and doesn't seem willing to put in more than a couple hours on his days off. If he isn't done, or if the church custodian won't [I]say[/I] he is, then we'll have to kick him out. In fact, Jabber won't even be able to say where he is, so can't know. He'll have to do paperwork at work if there's a warrant. He's right on the edge of doing well...but realistically, the only things he's fully done right since we let him stay July 1 is work. Yesterday was the first time EVER he gave me the full 1/2 his check. He borrowed $3 from Jabber two weeks ago and hasn't paid it back. He doesn't understand why $3 is such a big deal...but it is. He said he'd pay it back and he didn't. It's trust and respect and responsibility all wrapped up in $3 and he keeps ignoring it or saying he doesn't have it. We still find dirty dishes in the sink, and I don't mind a couple now and then, but darnit we told him to clean up after himself! Sorry...made this all about me, but my point is, it's one thing after another and though he isn't doing anything [I]wrong[/I] he isn't doing it right enough to keep me from being constantly on the verge of screaming about something. I don't know how to stop worrying. I have nagged and nagged about the community service for six weeks! For nothing. Jabber says, "It's on him." Even my son says, "It's on me!" but I still can't stop worrying. It's maddening. It was easier when he didn't live at home. When I didn't [I]know[/I] where he was supposed to be from day to day. :( [/QUOTE]
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