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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 673624" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>There is love in this, Quicksand, no doubt about it. There is also danger for you to slide into enabling. Sorry no other way to put it. When our d cs are in this apologetic, woe is me stage it is hard not to pull out all of our stoppers and go full throttle to help. We want them to be better, <em>desperately</em>. </p><p></p><p>There is that piece also, where it is possible he will be in trouble with the law, if the FB postings are true. Then what happens?</p><p></p><p>Take some time to think things through Quicksand. Even if you texted him one solution, you can say you have changed your mind, if that is what your decision is.</p><p></p><p>Of course, it is your journey, your choice. Remember, we just give suggestions, opinions, or let others know what our experiences are. It is always up to you, what you finally decide.</p><p></p><p>The beauty of this site is that you will receive information from folks who have been there, done that.</p><p></p><p> This is terrific advice from a mom who is in the same boat.I agree. If anything, how your son responds will be a determining factor in what kind of help he is looking for. Does he really want to change and kick heroin? Or, does he want you to fly him home, so it will be easier for him?</p><p> I agree. An apartment is risky. I have seen a few folks in the process of getting themselves out of this, because their d cs were not ready for change, trashed the apartment, threw parties, etc. That is learning the hard way. You do not have to learn the hard way.</p><p></p><p>One really good piece of advice I see over and again, here, is, slow...... way...... down, take deep breaths. </p><p></p><p>Everything doesn't have to happen on the dramatic, chaotic timeframe of our d cs. They can whip us up into a frenzy, good decisions can never be made in this state of mind. </p><p></p><p>Take a while to think on things, research and get other warrior moms opinions and experiences.</p><p></p><p>Then make up your mind. At least you will have time to really think it through.</p><p></p><p> Decide if you are doing something to ease your mind and worries for your son, or if you have found a solution that really helps him towards recovery. </p><p></p><p>Of course, <em>he has to truly want to recover</em>. That is key.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there Quicksand! You are not alone.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 673624, member: 19522"] There is love in this, Quicksand, no doubt about it. There is also danger for you to slide into enabling. Sorry no other way to put it. When our d cs are in this apologetic, woe is me stage it is hard not to pull out all of our stoppers and go full throttle to help. We want them to be better, [I]desperately[/I]. There is that piece also, where it is possible he will be in trouble with the law, if the FB postings are true. Then what happens? Take some time to think things through Quicksand. Even if you texted him one solution, you can say you have changed your mind, if that is what your decision is. Of course, it is your journey, your choice. Remember, we just give suggestions, opinions, or let others know what our experiences are. It is always up to you, what you finally decide. The beauty of this site is that you will receive information from folks who have been there, done that. This is terrific advice from a mom who is in the same boat.I agree. If anything, how your son responds will be a determining factor in what kind of help he is looking for. Does he really want to change and kick heroin? Or, does he want you to fly him home, so it will be easier for him? I agree. An apartment is risky. I have seen a few folks in the process of getting themselves out of this, because their d cs were not ready for change, trashed the apartment, threw parties, etc. That is learning the hard way. You do not have to learn the hard way. One really good piece of advice I see over and again, here, is, slow...... way...... down, take deep breaths. Everything doesn't have to happen on the dramatic, chaotic timeframe of our d cs. They can whip us up into a frenzy, good decisions can never be made in this state of mind. Take a while to think on things, research and get other warrior moms opinions and experiences. Then make up your mind. At least you will have time to really think it through. Decide if you are doing something to ease your mind and worries for your son, or if you have found a solution that really helps him towards recovery. Of course, [I]he has to truly want to recover[/I]. That is key. Hang in there Quicksand! You are not alone. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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