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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 688076" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>Oh, Copa - there doesn't have to be "one" thing. Sometimes the weight of many things is just too much, and there were many little things. It doesn't matter how large or small, combined they were too much. It is good that you know your limits, probably even went beyond them. </p><p></p><p>Relationships, of any kind, are two way. Give and take, compromises, trust, respect, validation, honesty, etc...when that is one sided or even lopsided, it is not a relationship. I would not accept the treatment my child has given me from my husband, a friend, a co-worker. We tend to bend more, work harder, continue longer than we would with anyone else when it is our children. Do they know this? Do they take advantage of this? Of our innate nature to nurture? Possibly. Probably. </p><p></p><p>You know what you can and cannot live with. I made the decision to not lose my husband, my family, my friends in order to save a child who is unwilling to participate in saving herself. And I would have destroyed myself and so many other good things and relationships if I had not stopped. None of us have to explain or defend when we have reached our limit. It was time to step away, you recognized that - that is a very good thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 688076, member: 19905"] Oh, Copa - there doesn't have to be "one" thing. Sometimes the weight of many things is just too much, and there were many little things. It doesn't matter how large or small, combined they were too much. It is good that you know your limits, probably even went beyond them. Relationships, of any kind, are two way. Give and take, compromises, trust, respect, validation, honesty, etc...when that is one sided or even lopsided, it is not a relationship. I would not accept the treatment my child has given me from my husband, a friend, a co-worker. We tend to bend more, work harder, continue longer than we would with anyone else when it is our children. Do they know this? Do they take advantage of this? Of our innate nature to nurture? Possibly. Probably. You know what you can and cannot live with. I made the decision to not lose my husband, my family, my friends in order to save a child who is unwilling to participate in saving herself. And I would have destroyed myself and so many other good things and relationships if I had not stopped. None of us have to explain or defend when we have reached our limit. It was time to step away, you recognized that - that is a very good thing. [/QUOTE]
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