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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 688326" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>Copa- I am so sorry you are going through all of this again. I would change the locks. You had every right to explain the rules. He has some sort of disability, but even so, he knows right from wrong and unless he is absolutely psychotic, is responsible for his own decisions. Yes, you will always worry about his welfare, you will always have that little bit of hope, that maybe this time, he will be able to straighten his life out and correct his course. But alas, for so many of us, never comes to fruition. It just is the wash, rinse, and repeat scenario.</p><p></p><p> I have been dealing with this scenario with my 34 old son since he was 20. He still lies, tells the most believable stories, which I fell for so many times. Now, I just don't say anything when he tells me something. 95% of what he tells me isn't the reality. I no longer get upset, question him, I know he is lying, and that is all that matters. He thinks he is pulling a fast one on me at times, I just let him think that. Its not worth the time and energy to "let him know I know he is full of crap". He does well for a while, then drama comes up, he moves yet again, then does good for a while, then it repeats the ugly cycle. I walked away as his payee this past year and it was the best thing I ever did. I had to, for my health, sanity, for my husband and I to get on with our life. I am tired, as we all are. </p><p></p><p>I hope you can find some peace of heart with your son and his circumstances, his choices. YOU have done all you can for him so many times over. At some point, you will be able to just "walk away" and let his life run its course, whatever that may be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 688326, member: 19951"] Copa- I am so sorry you are going through all of this again. I would change the locks. You had every right to explain the rules. He has some sort of disability, but even so, he knows right from wrong and unless he is absolutely psychotic, is responsible for his own decisions. Yes, you will always worry about his welfare, you will always have that little bit of hope, that maybe this time, he will be able to straighten his life out and correct his course. But alas, for so many of us, never comes to fruition. It just is the wash, rinse, and repeat scenario. I have been dealing with this scenario with my 34 old son since he was 20. He still lies, tells the most believable stories, which I fell for so many times. Now, I just don't say anything when he tells me something. 95% of what he tells me isn't the reality. I no longer get upset, question him, I know he is lying, and that is all that matters. He thinks he is pulling a fast one on me at times, I just let him think that. Its not worth the time and energy to "let him know I know he is full of crap". He does well for a while, then drama comes up, he moves yet again, then does good for a while, then it repeats the ugly cycle. I walked away as his payee this past year and it was the best thing I ever did. I had to, for my health, sanity, for my husband and I to get on with our life. I am tired, as we all are. I hope you can find some peace of heart with your son and his circumstances, his choices. YOU have done all you can for him so many times over. At some point, you will be able to just "walk away" and let his life run its course, whatever that may be. [/QUOTE]
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