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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 730015" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>Thanks RN. I wish I was strong, I'm kind of at a place where I've proven to myself nothing will change unless I do, might not change anyway but there's a chance at least this way.</p><p></p><p>I only have the one. Although he's an only child he does have a step brother he doesn't see often and he also has a kind of a big sister. I've lived in the same house since he was born, one of my neighbor's (a good friend) daughter was my mother's helper for him when he was 3, she was 11. Ever since then as he was growing up he would be by her side whenever she would let him. She's treated him just like a little brother and I'm like a second mom to her. Right now to say she's not happy with him would be a major understatement. She tried talking to him the last couple of times he's called her but he gave her his abuse stories. She's so angry with him she's not speaking to him now. She's a real spitfire and wants me to be angry with him too, she doesn't understand why I'm concerned for him. </p><p></p><p>I've been in a relationship with my significant other for 7 years now. In the past he would have snappy comebacks and snarky comments to my son when my son would be irresponsible or rude. At that time I felt like a referee between them. Over the years as my significant other has seen I'm not a pushover and my son is not your typical young person but does actually have a disorder to deal with he's changed his tune a bit. My significant other has been crucial lately helping me deal with my son. He's been very calm and does not react to my son's mouth. Just like me he's been called every name in the book, sworn at, talked to in a very demeaning way but he let's it roll right off him. He's also helped when I was dealing with the police and the courts. I don't think I would have been believed because I was shell shocked where my son comes off very calm and articulate to strangers. </p><p></p><p>I do have a therapist I started seeing not too long ago for anxiety, small wonder. I like her but haven't really gotten into too much of my son's behaviors with her. She's working on me, for me to deal with things myself, for not to become overwhelmed or try to fix what I have no control over. </p><p></p><p>I know my son is manic, but it doesn't matter, the affect on me is the same as if he were anyone else dishing out verbal and emotional abuse. And especially because he can act different with different people although if anyone has expectations of him and they don't just allow him to do as he pleases and do for him I know they would get the same business he gives to me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 730015, member: 22840"] Thanks RN. I wish I was strong, I'm kind of at a place where I've proven to myself nothing will change unless I do, might not change anyway but there's a chance at least this way. I only have the one. Although he's an only child he does have a step brother he doesn't see often and he also has a kind of a big sister. I've lived in the same house since he was born, one of my neighbor's (a good friend) daughter was my mother's helper for him when he was 3, she was 11. Ever since then as he was growing up he would be by her side whenever she would let him. She's treated him just like a little brother and I'm like a second mom to her. Right now to say she's not happy with him would be a major understatement. She tried talking to him the last couple of times he's called her but he gave her his abuse stories. She's so angry with him she's not speaking to him now. She's a real spitfire and wants me to be angry with him too, she doesn't understand why I'm concerned for him. I've been in a relationship with my significant other for 7 years now. In the past he would have snappy comebacks and snarky comments to my son when my son would be irresponsible or rude. At that time I felt like a referee between them. Over the years as my significant other has seen I'm not a pushover and my son is not your typical young person but does actually have a disorder to deal with he's changed his tune a bit. My significant other has been crucial lately helping me deal with my son. He's been very calm and does not react to my son's mouth. Just like me he's been called every name in the book, sworn at, talked to in a very demeaning way but he let's it roll right off him. He's also helped when I was dealing with the police and the courts. I don't think I would have been believed because I was shell shocked where my son comes off very calm and articulate to strangers. I do have a therapist I started seeing not too long ago for anxiety, small wonder. I like her but haven't really gotten into too much of my son's behaviors with her. She's working on me, for me to deal with things myself, for not to become overwhelmed or try to fix what I have no control over. I know my son is manic, but it doesn't matter, the affect on me is the same as if he were anyone else dishing out verbal and emotional abuse. And especially because he can act different with different people although if anyone has expectations of him and they don't just allow him to do as he pleases and do for him I know they would get the same business he gives to me. [/QUOTE]
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