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My teen is sullen and disgusted with me...
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 216509" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>(By Marg)</p><p></p><p>I think this is a very good point- my son and I do very poorly with "family therapy" for this very reason- it tends to turn into a blame game and my son has recently told me it's because he feels like it's always about me telling on him so he will make sure the therapist sees that he's not to blame for everything. Basicly, it makes my son defensive. Now, we have found a way to see tdocs in a more comfortable, and thus, more effective manner. I would suggest calling the therapist and having a conversation about this prior to the next appointment. Not to undermine your positive attitude, but personally, I DO get leary when the therapist has never even raised a single kid- not even a easy child, but if you are coomfortable with this therapist, that's what is important.</p><p></p><p> (By Marg)</p><p></p><p>This approach works well in my house- if my son wants a different dinner and he's willing to cook it (ok, I usually supervise a little) and he can do it within the budget, I have no problem with it. It has proven to be a win/win situation that has given me much needed relief some evenings and my son is very proud of himself when he achieves a decent meal, something he looked forward to eating, and he gains confidence each time. Also, I think it's teaching him to help out more and I believe he'll be more likely to help out a wife/partner someday with grumbling!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 216509, member: 3699"] (By Marg) I think this is a very good point- my son and I do very poorly with "family therapy" for this very reason- it tends to turn into a blame game and my son has recently told me it's because he feels like it's always about me telling on him so he will make sure the therapist sees that he's not to blame for everything. Basicly, it makes my son defensive. Now, we have found a way to see tdocs in a more comfortable, and thus, more effective manner. I would suggest calling the therapist and having a conversation about this prior to the next appointment. Not to undermine your positive attitude, but personally, I DO get leary when the therapist has never even raised a single kid- not even a easy child, but if you are coomfortable with this therapist, that's what is important. (By Marg) This approach works well in my house- if my son wants a different dinner and he's willing to cook it (ok, I usually supervise a little) and he can do it within the budget, I have no problem with it. It has proven to be a win/win situation that has given me much needed relief some evenings and my son is very proud of himself when he achieves a decent meal, something he looked forward to eating, and he gains confidence each time. Also, I think it's teaching him to help out more and I believe he'll be more likely to help out a wife/partner someday with grumbling!! [/QUOTE]
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