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<blockquote data-quote="Scott_G" data-source="post: 613727" data-attributes="member: 16626"><p>I also have to give some credit to my mother. While at the time there was certainly tension, with the wisdom of maturity and being a parent myself I realized that she was right about a lot of things a raised me well. When I was 16 I got my drivers license and an old beater car. The day I got my license my parents tell me that even though I have my license and my own car, I am still going to be taking the bus to school every day. Are you kidding me? Only losers with no car or losers with no friends who have cars take the school bus once they turn 16. I was already enough of a social outcast, and now I was sure I would be made fun of for still riding the bus at 16. My parents thought it absurd that I would be wasting money on gas and wear and tear on the car when the school bus would pick me up right at the end of my driveway and take me to and from school for free. Of course I told my parents that I would be made fun of, didn't matter to them. Every time I tried that one, I got the old "If you friends jumped off a bridge would you do it too?" line. I made a big stink and finally my mother said, fine, if you insist on driving to school instead of taking the bus, your father and I are not supporting your car. You are going to get a job and pay for all your own gas and other car related expenses. So I got a job and paid for most of my expenses, and since my parents saw that I was being responsible, they did assist financially a couple of times when I had some expensive car repairs.</p><p></p><p>When I was 19 I came home for the summer after my freshman year in college. I was used to the freedom of coming and going as I pleased, and then all of a sudden found myself slapped with a midnight curfew when I came home. When I complained that I was an adult my mother said she didn't care if I was 30, as long as I was living under her roof I had to live by her rules. After breaking curfew a few times I was told that the next step was me being kicked out. I ended up moving out voluntarily. I got an off-campus apartment with some of my friends when I went back to school.</p><p></p><p>More recently when my son was having an affar I was talking to my mother about it. She told me to stay well away and mind my own business. My mother told me that one of the hardest things for a parent to do is to not interfere in the lives of their adult children. She said that to this day there are things I do and say that make them cringe( I smoke cigars and I know that my mother absolutely hates it), but they simply grin and keep quiet about it because it is my life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scott_G, post: 613727, member: 16626"] I also have to give some credit to my mother. While at the time there was certainly tension, with the wisdom of maturity and being a parent myself I realized that she was right about a lot of things a raised me well. When I was 16 I got my drivers license and an old beater car. The day I got my license my parents tell me that even though I have my license and my own car, I am still going to be taking the bus to school every day. Are you kidding me? Only losers with no car or losers with no friends who have cars take the school bus once they turn 16. I was already enough of a social outcast, and now I was sure I would be made fun of for still riding the bus at 16. My parents thought it absurd that I would be wasting money on gas and wear and tear on the car when the school bus would pick me up right at the end of my driveway and take me to and from school for free. Of course I told my parents that I would be made fun of, didn't matter to them. Every time I tried that one, I got the old "If you friends jumped off a bridge would you do it too?" line. I made a big stink and finally my mother said, fine, if you insist on driving to school instead of taking the bus, your father and I are not supporting your car. You are going to get a job and pay for all your own gas and other car related expenses. So I got a job and paid for most of my expenses, and since my parents saw that I was being responsible, they did assist financially a couple of times when I had some expensive car repairs. When I was 19 I came home for the summer after my freshman year in college. I was used to the freedom of coming and going as I pleased, and then all of a sudden found myself slapped with a midnight curfew when I came home. When I complained that I was an adult my mother said she didn't care if I was 30, as long as I was living under her roof I had to live by her rules. After breaking curfew a few times I was told that the next step was me being kicked out. I ended up moving out voluntarily. I got an off-campus apartment with some of my friends when I went back to school. More recently when my son was having an affar I was talking to my mother about it. She told me to stay well away and mind my own business. My mother told me that one of the hardest things for a parent to do is to not interfere in the lives of their adult children. She said that to this day there are things I do and say that make them cringe( I smoke cigars and I know that my mother absolutely hates it), but they simply grin and keep quiet about it because it is my life. [/QUOTE]
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