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toughlovin
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Hi all,
I checked my sons balance at publix this morning and he still had $34 on his card which surprised me actually.... made me wonder about his commplaining about not having enough since that last bit lasted a while. So I decided to wait before I add any more....and husband and I decided we would reduce his grocery allowance to $50 a week. So what if that is not enough to eat and buy cigarettes. We have Occupational Therapist (OT) get tougher and I really think he needs to work hard at recovery and clearly he has not been.
So he texted me today and this was our convo:
difficult child: Did you add to the publix card?
Me: I checked this morning and you still had money on it. We are going to cut the amt to $50 a week but I haven't added it yet.
difficult child:Yeah not going to make it on that
Me: Well you will have to figure out how to...other people do. You still had $30 as of this morning.
difficult child: Eh other people dont get three meals a day for less than 10 bucks
Me: Well I have been told you should be able to do it on 50
difficult child: You always believe what your told
Me: Well I have certainly believed you too often!
difficult child:Maybe in regards to whether I took s*** from your purse or if I was smoking weed at the house. But grocerys is kind of a different area
Me: Its hard for me to know when to believe you because you have lied so much so often and so easily...I think if you shop carefully you can do it on 50 a week and it is time you start contributing financially.
Now he has not acknowledge he relapsed... I figured he would then tell me he cant get a job while he is in the current sober house (true) but he did not respond. I am getting from the current book I am reading that I don't want to critisize or try to make him feel guilty but truth is truth... and I can't believe a word he says because of his long history of lying to us. He needs to know that. I am done being fooled.
And lets face $50 is enough to get food for a week.... but probably not food and cigarettes so he may need to choose between eating and smoking. Tough luck.
TL
I checked my sons balance at publix this morning and he still had $34 on his card which surprised me actually.... made me wonder about his commplaining about not having enough since that last bit lasted a while. So I decided to wait before I add any more....and husband and I decided we would reduce his grocery allowance to $50 a week. So what if that is not enough to eat and buy cigarettes. We have Occupational Therapist (OT) get tougher and I really think he needs to work hard at recovery and clearly he has not been.
So he texted me today and this was our convo:
difficult child: Did you add to the publix card?
Me: I checked this morning and you still had money on it. We are going to cut the amt to $50 a week but I haven't added it yet.
difficult child:Yeah not going to make it on that
Me: Well you will have to figure out how to...other people do. You still had $30 as of this morning.
difficult child: Eh other people dont get three meals a day for less than 10 bucks
Me: Well I have been told you should be able to do it on 50
difficult child: You always believe what your told
Me: Well I have certainly believed you too often!
difficult child:Maybe in regards to whether I took s*** from your purse or if I was smoking weed at the house. But grocerys is kind of a different area
Me: Its hard for me to know when to believe you because you have lied so much so often and so easily...I think if you shop carefully you can do it on 50 a week and it is time you start contributing financially.
Now he has not acknowledge he relapsed... I figured he would then tell me he cant get a job while he is in the current sober house (true) but he did not respond. I am getting from the current book I am reading that I don't want to critisize or try to make him feel guilty but truth is truth... and I can't believe a word he says because of his long history of lying to us. He needs to know that. I am done being fooled.
And lets face $50 is enough to get food for a week.... but probably not food and cigarettes so he may need to choose between eating and smoking. Tough luck.
TL
