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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 255324" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Sigh. </p><p></p><p>K...I am gonna tell you somethings as I see them from reading your posts over the years. I think some of this could have been avoided if you had done things a bit differently and you may want to think about that for when difficult child does come home. Notice I did say when because I do think he will come home. </p><p></p><p>I remember when difficult child first got in trouble and they ordered the MST guy. You really balked at that and I dont think you should have. I would have taken that service. If you really read up on what MST is it could have helped. Yes it is behavior mod but behavior mod can be extremely helpful for mood disorder people...or all people. And MST trains the caregivers to be the "therapists" so to speak. And no one says you cant have a psychiatrist in addition to the MST guy too. Its a whole community deal. I think that was one big mistake that probably really put a big red flag next to you. </p><p></p><p>The next one is I think you gave too much information about yourself to everyone. I dont think the courts needed to know as much as they ended up knowing. No one dealing with Cory knows that I was raped or that my mother abused me. They didnt need to know that. None of their business. I never told them that I was in counseling or if I wasnt. Again...not their business. They can ask if there is a family history of something but that is about all. This gave people too much info to use against you. </p><p></p><p>The third thing is...and this one is the hardest for me to put into words...is that I think difficult child has learned to play the bipolar card. I know you are going to deny this one to the hilt but I just cant believe that he doesnt have some control over his actions right now. Otherwise his doctors would be screaming to change his medications because he would be so unstable and out of control in all aspects. As a bipolar person...I know how to play that card. I have seen it played. Sometimes you dont even know you are doing it until called on it. </p><p></p><p>I know you probably arent gonna agree with a thing I have said here today...lol. Please print this post out and save it for later. Read it in 3 months...6 months...a year. See if maybe something I said makes more sense when things arent so raw. I dont mean to say anything to hurt you. I am saying all this after going through years of raising a teen who has been through both juvenile justice and adult corrections. I dont want to see you here on the board when difficult child is 22 like Cory and he has headed off to adult jail. Please take what I say with all the love I have written it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 255324, member: 1514"] Sigh. K...I am gonna tell you somethings as I see them from reading your posts over the years. I think some of this could have been avoided if you had done things a bit differently and you may want to think about that for when difficult child does come home. Notice I did say when because I do think he will come home. I remember when difficult child first got in trouble and they ordered the MST guy. You really balked at that and I dont think you should have. I would have taken that service. If you really read up on what MST is it could have helped. Yes it is behavior mod but behavior mod can be extremely helpful for mood disorder people...or all people. And MST trains the caregivers to be the "therapists" so to speak. And no one says you cant have a psychiatrist in addition to the MST guy too. Its a whole community deal. I think that was one big mistake that probably really put a big red flag next to you. The next one is I think you gave too much information about yourself to everyone. I dont think the courts needed to know as much as they ended up knowing. No one dealing with Cory knows that I was raped or that my mother abused me. They didnt need to know that. None of their business. I never told them that I was in counseling or if I wasnt. Again...not their business. They can ask if there is a family history of something but that is about all. This gave people too much info to use against you. The third thing is...and this one is the hardest for me to put into words...is that I think difficult child has learned to play the bipolar card. I know you are going to deny this one to the hilt but I just cant believe that he doesnt have some control over his actions right now. Otherwise his doctors would be screaming to change his medications because he would be so unstable and out of control in all aspects. As a bipolar person...I know how to play that card. I have seen it played. Sometimes you dont even know you are doing it until called on it. I know you probably arent gonna agree with a thing I have said here today...lol. Please print this post out and save it for later. Read it in 3 months...6 months...a year. See if maybe something I said makes more sense when things arent so raw. I dont mean to say anything to hurt you. I am saying all this after going through years of raising a teen who has been through both juvenile justice and adult corrections. I dont want to see you here on the board when difficult child is 22 like Cory and he has headed off to adult jail. Please take what I say with all the love I have written it. [/QUOTE]
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