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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 255514" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I know you must be sick of reading the same advise from me. on the other hand, I feel confident that you know that I sincerely care and do wish that there had been a better resolution for you...and your son.</p><p> </p><p>You've got to accept the things you can not change. You used up all your courage trying to change what you could. Now, it really is time for you to find the wisdom to know that difference.</p><p> </p><p>Keep seeing your therapist if it helps you. Find cards or clip out newspaper articles or magazine features to include in frequent mailings to your difficult child. No matter where he is, mail will be welcome. Chances are you will not be allowed to send anything else to him. </p><p> </p><p>See if there is a Department of Juvenile Justice parent support group online. Sometimes there is and I understand it helps. Make a list of project at home according to degree of difficulty and cost so you can feel like you are positively accomplishing something as you check off do-it-yourself projects. Try to find something that you personally enjoy as an adult woman (not as a parent), lol. Find a volunteer group that can use a little of your help. Hone your work skills so you will be prepared for new opportunities.</p><p> </p><p>Do <strong>not</strong> hash and rehash these traumatic events because you have absolutely <strong>no</strong> way to change what has happened, <strong>no</strong> way to change the GAL, <strong>no</strong> way to change the PO, <strong>no </strong>way to change the Judge or the systems's methods. Thousands have traveled similar roads and had results that were not ideal..to say the least.</p><p> </p><p>Think positively and pray if you are so inclined. We have had CD families who have been pleasantly surprised by the services/help/support given to their difficult child's via Department of Juvenile Justice facilities. Do not focus on how long he will be there. You can not set the time. Do focus on hoping that however long he is there he will benefit in the long run. </p><p> </p><p>Don't think for a minute that I am not sympathetic to your loss. Truly I am. on the other hand you have to become the healthiest adult you can be in order to have a pleasant future that sets an example for difficult child. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 255514, member: 35"] I know you must be sick of reading the same advise from me. on the other hand, I feel confident that you know that I sincerely care and do wish that there had been a better resolution for you...and your son. You've got to accept the things you can not change. You used up all your courage trying to change what you could. Now, it really is time for you to find the wisdom to know that difference. Keep seeing your therapist if it helps you. Find cards or clip out newspaper articles or magazine features to include in frequent mailings to your difficult child. No matter where he is, mail will be welcome. Chances are you will not be allowed to send anything else to him. See if there is a Department of Juvenile Justice parent support group online. Sometimes there is and I understand it helps. Make a list of project at home according to degree of difficulty and cost so you can feel like you are positively accomplishing something as you check off do-it-yourself projects. Try to find something that you personally enjoy as an adult woman (not as a parent), lol. Find a volunteer group that can use a little of your help. Hone your work skills so you will be prepared for new opportunities. Do [B]not[/B] hash and rehash these traumatic events because you have absolutely [B]no[/B] way to change what has happened, [B]no[/B] way to change the GAL, [B]no[/B] way to change the PO, [B]no [/B]way to change the Judge or the systems's methods. Thousands have traveled similar roads and had results that were not ideal..to say the least. Think positively and pray if you are so inclined. We have had CD families who have been pleasantly surprised by the services/help/support given to their difficult child's via Department of Juvenile Justice facilities. Do not focus on how long he will be there. You can not set the time. Do focus on hoping that however long he is there he will benefit in the long run. Don't think for a minute that I am not sympathetic to your loss. Truly I am. on the other hand you have to become the healthiest adult you can be in order to have a pleasant future that sets an example for difficult child. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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