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My Trip Home & My Mom.......very long sorry
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 547918" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I'm thinking that the cart may be before the horse in this case. Obviously I could be wrong but I think it's time to make a list of logical chronolical steps to take. Remember how confused things were when your husband passed away? You don't want to replay that sequence out again under any circumstances.</p><p></p><p>Just tossing this out. Make a notebook with Q & A's.</p><p>1. Who are her current medical professionals? Names, addresses, numbers. How often has she been</p><p>seen? Has she, or will she, sign a form giving access to info for one of her children?</p><p></p><p>2. Where are her bank accounts and records? Does she have a safety deposit box? Is anyone on the accounts or forms in case she becomes unable to access that information...will she agree to adding someone?</p><p></p><p></p><p>3. What medications does she take? What pharmacy fills the Rx's? Where are the medications stored?</p><p></p><p>4. Should she decide to relocate (doesn't matter whether a family home or "a home") what is of the most importance to her and which of her possessions does she want to give to specific people and what would be donated?</p><p></p><p>5. Where are her important documents? Does her attorney have a current will, POA etc. and knowledge of assets?</p><p></p><p>What I'm trying to point out is that you or someone in her family need to have access to information about her current status, wants/needs and future possibilities. If nobody has a fact based close estimate of her worth then it's impossible to even plan a relocation. She couldn't just pack up and go live with any of her children leaving her home and unknown/possibly missing assets behind. She also could not make plans to move into a senior facility with-o those same facts...the Government requires that info.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I think that IF you trust one of your siblings OR her attorney the first step is to get these ducks in a row so when the time comes to move everything will be as easy peasy as possible. Hugs DDD</p><p></p><p>PS: You don't have to be "ill" to get confused. My easy child daughter is asking for specific info for her records as husband is getting forgetful and I am focused on getting well. One life insurance policy my husband told me last year "he let go"...in fact, this year I found it and he verified it's still good. Old age is hell.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 547918, member: 35"] I'm thinking that the cart may be before the horse in this case. Obviously I could be wrong but I think it's time to make a list of logical chronolical steps to take. Remember how confused things were when your husband passed away? You don't want to replay that sequence out again under any circumstances. Just tossing this out. Make a notebook with Q & A's. 1. Who are her current medical professionals? Names, addresses, numbers. How often has she been seen? Has she, or will she, sign a form giving access to info for one of her children? 2. Where are her bank accounts and records? Does she have a safety deposit box? Is anyone on the accounts or forms in case she becomes unable to access that information...will she agree to adding someone? 3. What medications does she take? What pharmacy fills the Rx's? Where are the medications stored? 4. Should she decide to relocate (doesn't matter whether a family home or "a home") what is of the most importance to her and which of her possessions does she want to give to specific people and what would be donated? 5. Where are her important documents? Does her attorney have a current will, POA etc. and knowledge of assets? What I'm trying to point out is that you or someone in her family need to have access to information about her current status, wants/needs and future possibilities. If nobody has a fact based close estimate of her worth then it's impossible to even plan a relocation. She couldn't just pack up and go live with any of her children leaving her home and unknown/possibly missing assets behind. She also could not make plans to move into a senior facility with-o those same facts...the Government requires that info. I think that IF you trust one of your siblings OR her attorney the first step is to get these ducks in a row so when the time comes to move everything will be as easy peasy as possible. Hugs DDD PS: You don't have to be "ill" to get confused. My easy child daughter is asking for specific info for her records as husband is getting forgetful and I am focused on getting well. One life insurance policy my husband told me last year "he let go"...in fact, this year I found it and he verified it's still good. Old age is hell. [/QUOTE]
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