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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 82151" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>My older three kids went to an inner city school with a high black enrolment - Aboriginal enrolment, in our case. And for a while, easy child was really copping it from a handful of local kids especially, who accused her of being racist because she got cranky at one of these local girls. They picked on her, hassled her and threatened her. We know now - they had an "auntie" employed at the school to deal with black issues, easy child could have gone to hr for support. But it sorted out because it soon was obvious that easy child hadn't been racist in defending herself against this girl, she had simply been defending herself, period. Once they realised that this new family were NOT racist, they stopped attacking her. But until then - these few kids had played the race card in a "poor me" attempt to milk every drop of sympathy from the situation, at the same time as ducking out of every scrap of their personal responsibility. It was easier to opt out of making any effort and to blame white oppression for their failure to achieve, than to put in a bit of mental effort and maybe even succeed. But it did happen - the girl who bullied easy child did turn herself around and finally did very well in school, with a lot of encouragement from the white and the black staff.</p><p></p><p>This inner city school is located in a ghetto where race riots have been seen on the news around the world. It's been a very nasty place to try to raise kids, but it's where the Aboriginals gravitate to when they are trying to get back in touch with lost family members (thanks to the past nasty practices of our governments and welfare agencies). There is a lot of anger in that area, mostly directed at police (sometimes justifiably). But it turned out to be the best school any of my kids went to, in this age group. And they did it by embracing the black culture and involving every student in learning not only about Aboriginal culture, but also every other culture represented by the origins of the students at this school. It took a lot of effort (hence the "auntie") but it was worth it.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes, when things look really bleak, it's because the administration has given up. The kids and their families are often good people in a bad situation. Let it continue for too long and they go bad as well. The administration is where to begin. Once the kids and the families see someone making a genuine effort to understand them and try to listen and help, things can begin to change.</p><p></p><p>I hope your wife can keep her sense of decency and confidence. She is in a difficult situation but there are ways...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 82151, member: 1991"] My older three kids went to an inner city school with a high black enrolment - Aboriginal enrolment, in our case. And for a while, easy child was really copping it from a handful of local kids especially, who accused her of being racist because she got cranky at one of these local girls. They picked on her, hassled her and threatened her. We know now - they had an "auntie" employed at the school to deal with black issues, easy child could have gone to hr for support. But it sorted out because it soon was obvious that easy child hadn't been racist in defending herself against this girl, she had simply been defending herself, period. Once they realised that this new family were NOT racist, they stopped attacking her. But until then - these few kids had played the race card in a "poor me" attempt to milk every drop of sympathy from the situation, at the same time as ducking out of every scrap of their personal responsibility. It was easier to opt out of making any effort and to blame white oppression for their failure to achieve, than to put in a bit of mental effort and maybe even succeed. But it did happen - the girl who bullied easy child did turn herself around and finally did very well in school, with a lot of encouragement from the white and the black staff. This inner city school is located in a ghetto where race riots have been seen on the news around the world. It's been a very nasty place to try to raise kids, but it's where the Aboriginals gravitate to when they are trying to get back in touch with lost family members (thanks to the past nasty practices of our governments and welfare agencies). There is a lot of anger in that area, mostly directed at police (sometimes justifiably). But it turned out to be the best school any of my kids went to, in this age group. And they did it by embracing the black culture and involving every student in learning not only about Aboriginal culture, but also every other culture represented by the origins of the students at this school. It took a lot of effort (hence the "auntie") but it was worth it. Sometimes, when things look really bleak, it's because the administration has given up. The kids and their families are often good people in a bad situation. Let it continue for too long and they go bad as well. The administration is where to begin. Once the kids and the families see someone making a genuine effort to understand them and try to listen and help, things can begin to change. I hope your wife can keep her sense of decency and confidence. She is in a difficult situation but there are ways... Marg [/QUOTE]
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