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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 314665" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Witz, don't give up hope. It's not easy, but a personality disordered human being can change with therapy, awareness and a lot of hard work. I've changed so much t hat when I read the criteria for Borderline (BPD) I winced and thought, "OMG, I have that, but I'm soooooooooooooooooo much better now." I'm not hard to live with at all anymore. The only time I can be a bit trying is when something completely stresses me, but I'm control enough to call my therapist for help and ask for an appointment. rather than create drama and chaos. Of course, if a personality disordered person refuses to see it or refuses help or has zilch insight, there will be no improvement. I have always tried very hard to better myself. CBT and DBT are terrific for us.</p><p></p><p>As for the constant texting, that sounds like borderline to me. Borderline really is, to be more descriptive, "emotional dysregulation disorder" and it is very hard for a borderline to reign that in once it gets going. Once you lock into anger, you get stuck there, thus all the texting (sheesh, I could see myself doing that in my 20's). It's to get a response and the more you don't respond the angrier the person gets, but I agree not to respond. That would be like pouring oil on the fire. What people who caught me in a "borderline moment" could have done best was to make it impossible for me to get in touch with them temporarily. When I had no choice but to calm down, that's when I did calm down. </p><p></p><p>Never give up hope for your kids. Offer them "ideas" about how they may get help controlling themselves better. They may cuss you out, but they also may think about it and get help. Even the drama queen gets tired of the drama, but some don't know how to live peaceful lives. I"m so grateful I am living the most boring life in the world now and that I no longer act out in silly, obsessive ways. </p><p></p><p>One day your kid may also think, boring is beautiful!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 314665, member: 1550"] Witz, don't give up hope. It's not easy, but a personality disordered human being can change with therapy, awareness and a lot of hard work. I've changed so much t hat when I read the criteria for Borderline (BPD) I winced and thought, "OMG, I have that, but I'm soooooooooooooooooo much better now." I'm not hard to live with at all anymore. The only time I can be a bit trying is when something completely stresses me, but I'm control enough to call my therapist for help and ask for an appointment. rather than create drama and chaos. Of course, if a personality disordered person refuses to see it or refuses help or has zilch insight, there will be no improvement. I have always tried very hard to better myself. CBT and DBT are terrific for us. As for the constant texting, that sounds like borderline to me. Borderline really is, to be more descriptive, "emotional dysregulation disorder" and it is very hard for a borderline to reign that in once it gets going. Once you lock into anger, you get stuck there, thus all the texting (sheesh, I could see myself doing that in my 20's). It's to get a response and the more you don't respond the angrier the person gets, but I agree not to respond. That would be like pouring oil on the fire. What people who caught me in a "borderline moment" could have done best was to make it impossible for me to get in touch with them temporarily. When I had no choice but to calm down, that's when I did calm down. Never give up hope for your kids. Offer them "ideas" about how they may get help controlling themselves better. They may cuss you out, but they also may think about it and get help. Even the drama queen gets tired of the drama, but some don't know how to live peaceful lives. I"m so grateful I am living the most boring life in the world now and that I no longer act out in silly, obsessive ways. One day your kid may also think, boring is beautiful!! [/QUOTE]
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